HELP. Why can't I get that he won't treat her differently?
HELP. Why can't I get that he won't treat her differently?
I read about OW, but I still think if she is super sweet, nice, and loving, he will treat her better. I just found out my exNP connected with a woman a couple weeks after we split up, added her then on FB. He delivers stock to the store she manages. She's 10 yrs older than us, 53, slightly heavyset, wears glasses, blonde, but has a pleasant face. We look nothing alike. Now, she is on the fb of various family members, his sister and her kids. His sister immediately snubbed me when we first met. When he told his older sister I was "the love of his life, she said, "Oh really?" She is heavyset too and I'm thin. I only point this out because it came up in our relationship, as I discovered his ex's were typically large. Of course, I received abuse.
After all the emotional abuse, I started to question the lies, contradictions, things I would hear that didn't add up. Of course that lead to ST, me being a "bitch," etc. He never once reassured me! When we were apart, he wrote all these beautiful scripts, complimented me, made promises. Once I moved to his state and moved in, almost no compliments. The sex was mechanical and emotionless. I rarely saw him. I began to try harder and wondered where I stood. If I asked him something about the past, what he said, and what I'd heard, he'd rage. Will he treat this new woman better if she is nicer, sweet, and doesn't make waves by asking him any questions or calling him out on his confusing behaviors? I REALLY NEED HELP with this. I think she could be the one...the new "love of his life."
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Won't be too long til he
I totally agree DS
Time to stop looking for what he is doing.
Layla, thanks
Let me offer you a virtual hug!!
Layla, thank you for the virtual hug!!!
cali
The answer is yes, he will be
Hunter
CG
Hunter
Guess what my friend??
Hey Cali...how do you know so
Like everyone is saying is so
They are lie and lie and lie
Amazed, good point!
The mask will always fall,
DS, I really never looked at it this way
They are lie and lie and lie
cali
cali
reread some of this
Caligirl
Blessed, thank you. What you said about
Please forget about his
used posted this
Thanks, Blueworld
what does a abuser want?
What does an abuser want?