Help with NC
Help with NC
hi all. it took me a while but i'm *finally* understanding the importance of NC. ;-) Right now, I'm really confused and frustrated about how to manage it when there are unresolved practical matters. Does anyone have any thoughts to share on this?
My story is posted, so won't get into the gory details. In a nutshell, while I was out of town tending to family matters, my ex-N started another relationship and moved her in to the same house that we were living in. He has "forbidden" me to go back there. After 7 months of duping me into chances of a reconciliation through long-distance phone calls, he changed his number, disappeared, and went NC on me.
Aside from the emotional trainwreck, I'm still on the other side of the country, my belonging are still there, and amongst other things, there's the matter of a massive sum of money that I lent him on a verbal agreement (yes, I'm a total idiot!). I'm not strong enough to see him (although I want to) as I'm working through the muck of still loving him (I know, I know). On top of that, in true N form, this is a similar situation to what happened with his exW years ago, in which he became physically violent when she tried to see him and reclaim her stuff. Only now, I'm in the exW's position and he's replaced me with the OW.
Cripes - are they really that f**ked up and predictable?
I'm weighing whether to wait it out and go there when stronger or just get it over with...
thanks all for any input you have to share...
if you can
hedidntbreakme...
thanks for the input
whoa whoa whoa
sick of it... it happened...
get some distance
momoya
A couple of things are
Daisyme
aint that the truth...You've