Help i'm a mess

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#1 Jan 24 - 2PM
jules k
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Help i'm a mess

I wasn't brave enough to say goodbye. Today he phoned and ended it. He was really sweet. I know i shouldn't have but i tried to talk him round but his mind was made up. I didn't cry, i was very calm. But this evening i'm a mess, i don't know what to do with myself. I've been here before, i know the process. I wish he would text to ask how i am, but he won't.
The end of a marriage, the end of hopes and dreams.

At a loss tonight :-(

x

Jan 24 - 5PM
onwithmylife
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julesk

i know you are going through every emotion in the book, i was a walking zombie for so many months, could barely go to work and function, read every book known to mankind on the subject of NPD and all the sites but remember this and mark my words, in time you will be GLAD he did you a favor, like mine did, by ending it, Life with them is NO LIFE at all, but one of misery and taking away your soul............you and we ALL deserve a man who can give and receive love, these men will NEVER be able to do that...............
Jan 24 - 4PM
peaches
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Hang in There

I'm sorry for your pain. Take good care of yourself during this difficult time of loss. Eat well, try to get some rest, moderate excercise. Be nice to yourself. Do you have family or friends you can call on for support or a hug? Your path in recovery will lead you to healing and a better life. Tomorrow is another day, most likely full of challenges so take care of yourself today. If he is a N the hopes and dreams weren't real. You new life will be real! Best Wishes in your recovery. Hugs to you.
Jan 24 - 2PM
midnight7
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jules - hold on. See the

jules - hold on. See the 'Hurting' post too - much pain today - much pain here every day but also so much support. Can you be with someone today/this evening? Think about you and you alone - take care of yourself. Our hopes and dreams are always destroyed by N's but we come back, stronger, wiser and in control. We find peace, and happiness again in time. Hold on.