Help, I am struggling with something can someone give an answer??
Help, I am struggling with something can someone give an answer??
I have been struggling with this one for a while now, and its a biggie, its the same struggle we ALL must work through but maybe someone can can offer some relief, maybe you can share how YOU overcame this.
Last night I googled his name, hey at least I am not on FB, cut me a break, ha ha seriously he is a sheriff so many many things popped up, his pic for one, that sent me over the edge, he was standing by his patrol car at the scene of an accident, my heart just sank when I saw his pic. Then his property taxes came up, and all that crap so I clicked on it, and it had pictures of his new home being built two years ago. I LOST IT, started that deep hysterical crying. What came to my mind at that moment was him promising us a life together and here he was building a 1/2 million dollar home for himself, and when it was completed guess who moves in with him, ya the GF of 8 years. Now wait, hold on I am NOT jealous of his GF, I have worked thru all those issues knowing I am not better or worse than her in anyway, and she most likely has NOTHING that I dont have, oh wait ya she does she has a psychopath.... anyway
Why I broke down was because of the UTTER BETRAYAL this man did to me, I think back during that year he was building his home and how he would take me by and show me different stages of the construction when I would visit him, I found it odd that rather than living with his GF while his home was being built he lived with his mother, mmmm guess he needed his freedom for F ing others but then again, its strange they started living together 24-7 after the home was built. The entire time he was conning me he was tending to his own personal life and he and gf were building this home as I sat and thought maybe it would have been us that shared a life and lived in that home. I think this is a NORMAL human reaction to always wonder WHY WASNT I THE ONE, why was I just his side whore, when I had EVERYTHING his GF has and hey who knows even possibly more.I find it interesting too that even after 20 some years of marriage to these men like poor Jaycee they can dump you and run off and share a life with another woman, but it wasnt the case with me being the OW, he chose to stay with his long time GF. However, would I really want that on my conscience? To break up their relationship and see her suffer and have him dump her to the curb? See her suffer as Jaycee has suffered? Knowing too that the bastard would probably keep going back to her and every other woman he wanted to screw.
This man pursued ME, I dont go chasing after men that are married and are in long relationships, he made it clear their relationship was NOT GOOD, of course and that they just more or less dated, while I was crying, missing him, thinking we were going to have a life together the F was building a new home to share with HER, and clearly in my mind if you want to put the truth on the table he only wanted me for his sexual perversion he does on the side. I studied music at a private college I was raised in upper class so to speak, I took ballet for 15 years, and this man could only see me as ONE THING, A WHORE, I JUST DONT GET IT????????? She isnt the Madonna, I should have been the fricking Madonna, he had it reversed. Every single man I ever dated told me I was a very very classy woman, reserved and refined, never in a million years would I imagine a man trying to turn me into his sex slave and whore, I cant even begin to describe how degraded and worthless this man made me feel. I walked around for a good year thinking, oh I am only good for one thing - F'ing - I am attractive and I can F, that is all I am worth. So after I lost both my parents and met him I walked around saying, I am nothing but an orphaned, adultress, slut. eww wouldnt my parents be so proud of what their daughter became!!!
I still suffer because I am STILL trying to get validation from a disordered person, I am still trying to make sense of how a disordered person thinks and trying to make sense of what he did to me for almost five years, it will NEVER make sense, but I struggle horribly trying to get past the deep violation and betrayal he did to me. When a person is betrayed on this level as we all have been, you put it in a category of TRAUMA, VERY VERY PERSONAL TRAUMA, it aint personal? Your damn right it was personal, because it was ME he personally did this to and it is me that now has to sift thru all this rubble and shit this piece of garbage left in my back yard.
Thank you
nerverlookback
neverlookback
Jaycee
You were rapped
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kizzy
helldweller
Totally understandable.
neverlookback
Helldweller
helldweller
helldweller - ouch i can relate to everything
NLB
Good way to view it
Hey I still look at the fb!
"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess
NLB
nlb
I had this thought: Just who
Believe in yourself!
Terri
....who do you think you are?
Hoping to Give you an Answer
First...where does a sheriff
aww neverlookback
and yes