Help falling apart

I don`t know if these people will ever get their asses kicked, but sometimes some Higher power should. I`m not in the best position right now to give advice, because I try much as possible not to hold onto anger, because it eats me inside out. It`s a shame that children come in the middle of all this, I know, because I grew the same way. And I have a very hard time distinguishing right from wrong..please as much as possible, try to distance yourself from all the mess, at least emotionaly. If you are stressed and angry, that is all the children will see in you, a threat. So, it`s much easier for them, to rely on the energetic, unaffected disordered father. Try as much as possible, to separate yourself from that environment, if you can, and have your own environment where you can be free, and yourself. Where the children can see you, as the being that you truly are, an independent spirit with sunshine in your soul. This way, hope they will get to know you truly, and not as the crazy loon, painted by the N. My father is a disordered man as well, your post hit home for me. Your children are the light of your life. Don`t make them choose between you and the father, I know how hard is that, because afterall is their dad. But you can give them a healthy example of living, and let them shape their own perspective. Good luck, and hang in there!

He got into my phone and computer and took it to a hacker guy. He read all my texts about him. He was furious. Not because I kicked him out but because I actually told people about him and his psychosis! Luckily my children have bee terrorized my him and know he is not stable. The younger ones I worry about. They need to be reminded. He makes promises and breaks them. He's not around very much, it comes in phases. He'll be around for a month and then gone for 2. And who knows what he's doing. Anyway, I can relate! And I've decided to not pursue custody. As it is, I have them all the time. If I were to ask for money then he'd want custody. I'd rather have full control over the kids. I don't need his empty promises. And he'd probably give the kids to his mom. Yuk! One more thing, if you were to meet this man you wouldn't believe me. He's short, good looking, fit. He talks a good talk. He can convince everyone of what a good person he is. He gets money from people easily. He's absolutely crazy. Probably certifiable. He can even out smart a therapist. I've seen him do it. It's jaw dropping. I hope you can get away from him. I'm still trying to find a happy medium where he's not invading my space yet can see his children.

Can you find someone who will act as an intermediary to help you deal or NOT deal with him?