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#1 Feb 25 - 7AM
Littleone
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He text me

Well if I had any doubt that this new guy I was seeing was an N.... Its completely gone now.
So after telling him It was over and have him beg for me to see him... I told him I would think about it. He said he was over the moon at hearing that etc etc and that he's away for work this week blah blah blah and he'll be back next week.

That was the last I heard from him in 8 days.

Then I get this message at 9:45pm on a sat night-

hmm great start to the day for me.. We have a staff member who was on holiday gone completely MIA! Now it's thrown everyone's day into dissarray! Grrr...

Seriously wtf? Word salad
For starters it's not the start of the day, secondly it's a Saturday and thirdly he hasn't spoken to me in over a week and knows I've got heaps going on in my life at the moment do where is the 'how are you?'

It's just a hook to get me to respond.

DELETE

I'm on to u narc

Feb 25 - 12PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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The red flag-

me me me! Pity poor ME!
Feb 25 - 10AM
janemarie
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If it walks like a

If it walks like a duck.....it IS a duck!!!! I think a BLOCK is in order!!!!! Good thing you are strong and knowledgeable to key in on it before you started having feelings!!!!! See how far you've come?? I cant wait to get there!! xoxo
Feb 25 - 4PM (Reply to #9)
Littleone
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Well I did allow this guy

Well I did allow this guy into my life for 3 months before kicking him to the curb so I can't take too much credit.... I DID hav a bad feeling about him from the beginning but didn't listen to my instincts unfortunately. Why? Sparrow has since informed me that I am codependent and need to work on myself.....she is right. I did however give myself a time limit on the relationship (3 mths) to determine whether or not I wanted to stay with him or not. Lots of red flags appeared within that time frame and I could feel myself slipping a bit so I ended it. I do have feelings for him but they are fairly shallow. I'm a bit annoyed that I stayed with him for 3 mths but Im putting him down as a lesson and the next narc that crosses my path will be out the door at red flag no 1 Xox
Feb 25 - 4PM (Reply to #10)
Journey
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Little One, 3 months is not

Little One, 3 months is not so bad all things considered. It could have been 3 years... Don't be hard on yourself, you DID do right by setting a time limit and sticking to it! THAT is progress, even if you'd have preferred to have left at the first red flag. Sometimes we need to experience them in order to see them for what they really are and to understand how to set our boundaries and act on our behalf to protect them. Glad you made it out of this one and as far as his text - bloody hell these narcs just love to dish the rotten scrambled eggs to mess with our digestive systems. Take the alkaseltzer (sp?) of NC and you will be feeling better in no time :)

Journey on...

Feb 25 - 6PM (Reply to #11)
Littleone
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Thanks journey...., I agree,

Thanks journey...., I agree, it IS progress. And u are right, I definately needed to experience it enough to be sure of myself. I have been no contact- I deleted him on Facebook and haven't looked at his page at all. I haven't text him... I've just been working on me. I did have a little bit of cd and I was wondering if I'd made the right decision... Seeing as I hav been through all this before I had predicted that I would get a random weird word salad text like this.,,, it seems to be a trademark of the disordered. This narcs are really so predictable and boring when u see them for what they really are. He's a fool.... That 'hook' of a text sealed the deal for me....Decision firmly made. As the wise women on here often say ' garbage belongs at the curb'.
Feb 25 - 10AM
Used
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littleone

TO TELL SOMEONE ITS OVER...THEN TELL THEM YOU WILL THINK ABOUT IT, IS SENDING OUT MIXED MESSAGES....DELETE OR CHANGE YOUR NUMBER, YOU KNOW WHO HE IS....
Feb 25 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
Littleone
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Yea I know... I told him it

Yea I know... I told him it was over then he hounded me with texts and calls pleading and begging to see him and saying all kinds of nice things. Massive Hoover .... U know how hard it can be. So yes I caved a little bit. I'll be honest tho I wasn't entirely sure I was making the right decision at that point in time and It was hard to shut the door completely. I feel somewhat differently now that a bit more time has passed. I'm not changing my number for every n I come across..... And especially not this one... He doesn't hav enough of a hold on me to warrant that.
Feb 25 - 9AM
Run4it
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Typical....

Either looking for the little bit of pity or the text was meant for another source he whines to.
Feb 25 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
Littleone
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Yea the thought did cross my

Yea the thought did cross my mind that it was meant for someone else... But he's a very tech savvy guy and the text was well worded so he didn't sound drunk or anything... I think it was meant for me but maybe to look like it was for someone else? So if I did text back he could shift the power back. Either way who cares- it won't be getting a response from me.
Feb 25 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
HelpMeHeal
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Intended to LOOK like it was for someone else....

... I agree. They love the mind-fuck. He wants you to respond but doesn't want to look like the weaker person for reaching out first. LOSER! Delete! Good for you!
Feb 25 - 7AM
Hunter
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Delete,delete,delete

Delete,delete,delete
Feb 25 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
Snowflake
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Just so you know you arent going mad..

mine used to do the same...we would be having some heated argument, slam down the phone etc. then a bit later I would get a text about 'random shitties' as if NOTHING had happened!!! Enough to make you crazy ..its like WTF !!!