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#1 Oct 5 - 5PM
MissM
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He is on a swingers site!

I was sent an anonymous text yesterday with a link to ex-n's personal page on a swingers site. It was his photos, his spare mobile number etc. It was disgusting.

So I texted him to ask how someone had got my number and why they would send me that and what was going on. He of course flat denies it, vehemently and nastily, turning it round on me. Adding he's 'in a happy relationship now' so why would he want me to see something like that. He is also trying to say someone else set the page up using his details. What, photos and mobile phone details too?!

In the end he got pretty nasty when I said it was the eye opener that I finally needed. Told me to delete his number. Haha with pleasure you freak!

He was seeking women, couples and groups for a list of activities I can't even repeat. his 'friends' list includes single gay men, couples and bi men in couples. So now he knows that I finally know the truth, the real him. Him saying he is in a happy relationship is just to twist the knife in, I see that. I see it all now.

What a waste of one year of my life second guessing myself for this degenerate cretin, trawling his way thru the dregs of humanity on a swingers website. Happy relationship, my a*se.

Oct 6 - 5PM
enoughalready
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MissM

Of course he'll deny everything and anything that makes them look bad. What a liar!!!! Worse part is when they turn it around making you look as if you were the insecure "psycho" person. My XN was a regular at a strip joint and he's been dating a stripper now for months even though she's kicked him out of her place several times. She'll learn quickly the true malignant deceptive liar he really is. Count your blessings....he's out of your life. NC the only way to go. XOXO
Oct 6 - 4PM
MissM
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The karma bus!

Oh I'd say the karma bus ran him over when I sent him the link to his very own swingers web page! How totally utterly exposing! The real him and I get to see it in it's full glory. Like a Christmas present come early. Now I can really start healing and growing. No more self doubt, self blame, second guessing. Time I started believing in guardian angels - one of them really pulled out all the stops to draw to me what I needed to see most. I'm so grateful. I've kept screenshots of his page in case I ever need them. Such a miserable, dysfunctional loon. And like any psychopath, his needs and impulses are escalating. He's gone from lurking in mobile phone chat rooms while he was still living with his ex and their babies, to advertising himself on filthy swinger sites with his mobile number IN HIS PROFILE. I have a horrible feeling he crossed the bi curious line too, what with his single gay male 'friends' on his friends list. Pretty sure they haven't been talking about football. Thanks everyone for your replies.
Oct 5 - 7PM
michele115 (not verified)
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MissM

I understand your disgust. They are disgusting creatures. Disgusting enough that I've lost whatever "feelings" I've had for him. The fear of AIDS was enough to get my mind back on track. No one is worth my dying a slow painful agonizing death over. Be happy and get on your knees every night that whatever deity you believe in, led you to the path of "waking" up. We got out a little bruised but ALIVE. In some cases, that is exactly the bottom line. All the best!
Oct 5 - 7PM
truthseeker
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MissM

Please make sure, if you haven't already , to go get tested for everything. And I mean EVERYTHING. Be safe. Sorry for the heartache.
Oct 5 - 6PM
almostanneagain
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Ummmm..my opinion? HE sent

Ummmm..my opinion? HE sent the text....using someone else's phone. He wanted you to see the site. In his warped mind he believes this will make you jealous...or that you will realize what a great guy you lost. Thats what mine does. EXCEPT that I have a rule. I never, ever answer an e-mail or text...or phone call if I don't recognize the number. If it is someone who really wants to get in touch they would leave a message. My caller (and I know its him) never does. He's counting on me getting curious and calling back which I only did once and will never do again. It was some woman claiming she had never called me but that her "boyfriend" sometimes uses her phone. Thats all I needed to hear. My ex always loved to create conflict between women over him. So sick. I've been NO CONTACT now for over two years...best thing I ever did.....but the calls keep coming. I take great satisfaction when the phone rings into the void. Never forget how manipulative and cunning they are.
Oct 5 - 6PM
Briseis
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Sounds like one of "us" felt

Sounds like one of "us" felt compelled to fill you in on what you might not know about him. I don't mean one of the members here, but another 'sister under the skin' who he's been seeing all along and made her own discoveries . . . So you are the "other woman" and you got "told". And it sucks but it worked for you. Gave you the information you needed. He's a wank and a whore. The Karma Bus is going to smear him all over the street someday. I'd almost feel sorry for him if he hadn't hurt you so badly, someone this pathetic is an object of pity.