He said he only Loved Brunettes but the OW is BLOND???

Bottom line who give a s**t what they like lol I am so grateful to be at that stage. I have learned they will go wherever the supply is best and new and they will say whatever they need to say to get it.

lol! he'll slap a wig on her :P I can't believe they all talk about brunettes vs blonds. omg. mine did too! blonds are for fun, but brunettes are who i've always married. haha and he's divorced from all of them! so...maybe he should give redheads a go...yeaaaahhh...that's the ticket. good Lawd...they're all the same...so immature. I find it immature to choose women based on hair color. it's not even something my teenage son does! lol

Ex N is not white, loved dark haired women of all races - always - I even tried to make my brown hair a little darker just for him. He is with a cheap very bleached blond with huge dark roots showing...never saw him an admire a blond ever, including celebrities. This lady looks like a stripper or hooker in her early 40's...not ugly but garrish...trying VERY hard with the props... How can I be jealous? I am not...but its very weird...I can't help but think he thinks this would be good flash to show off to his fans...maybe men think sleaze is sexy...

The ex-Psych prof had a weird thing going on with this one... BOTH the woman who was later his wife (and who was much more butch than me) and I are brunettes. She had his crew cut. She looked&acted as if she were his twin sister. They didn't even put on the Happy Couple Act (to my chagrin) But I remember being REALLY jealous because he had invited a beautiful blonde female student to his apartment for dinner... she was thanking him, and I was heartbroken. She was really feminine too... unlike the woman he married&had kids with. The ex-P also had a HUGE crush on Gwyneth Paltrow. He came to me as if I were a confessor for his sin of... watching Gwyneth Paltrow movies. Since Paltrow is kind of a Narc herself... it makes sense. In her new cookbook, she acknowledges&thanks her kids... but NOT her husband, Coldplay front man Chris Martin. He doesn't get mentioned. But somehow Mario Batali does. My former Narc boss (who's openly gay) had a crush on Paltrow too. Weird...

"Yes, baby," she could be green and purple f*cking polka-dotted for all he cares.

I don't think they know what the hell they want. Mine always said he preferred tiny blonds or redheads with pretty blue or green eyes. And he's a butt and a leg man. I'm tiny, blonde with blues eyes, and he's liked my butt and legs since Jr. High. So what do the previous victim just prior to me and the new victim look like? Heavy with brown hair and brown eyes. He even told me that when he first met his previous victim for the first time after interacting on FB, he was disappointed in her looks, because she was much heavier than her profile picture. In fact he said if he'd seen her at a bar or party somewhere, he wouldn't have noticed her or been attracted to her at all. But because of the relationship they developed before they met, he already loved her for who she was. He also said she was so much like him, they had so much in common, she was like a female version of himself. I'm thinking that's what makes her so special. It's got to be a Narc's dream to have a relationship with basically himself. The new one also looks like she could be his sister. They have a similar facial structure, the same fat cheeks, similar smile, eye socket/brow shape, etc. Completely opposite from me. But if you look at previous girl friends from his past and girls he's had crushes on, going all the way back to high school, they're mostly blonde with blue eyes. I think it really all comes down to who will be the best, most consistent form of supply for them, and these two have me beat. I started questioning him too much and seeing through his crap, so we started fighting. The previous one is still on his friends list and interacts with him as a friend, even after what he did to her with me, which was pursue me when he was still with her (I didn't know about her), and that is also what he did to me with the new one. The new one was a girlfriend of over 25 years ago whose heart he already broke once. Both of them sound like they are and were married to abusive narcs too. The previous one is still married, the new one is divorced, but based on what he told me about how they were hurt by there husbands (and he HATES both of them BTW), I'd lay money they were narcs. So they're essentially better prey and better potential for a long-term relationship than I am, because they sound so much more docile than me and I will only take so much shit for so long, especially now that I'm enlightened as to what the Hell is wrong with him. And it finally makes sense to me why he was always telling me I'm so strong and the previous was one was always so vulnerable and so is the new one now. I was too strong for him to control me and keep me brainwashed forever.

I'm a green-eyed brunette and once "casually" mentioned to me that he prefers blue eyes blonds -- WTF -- messes with your head!!!!!!