is he a narc?

I know i cannot get any diagnosis here. But i believe my bf is a narc by the way he acts. What i dont get is..he is more intovert I think. He has put himself into such a big deep hole and cant get out of it or doesnt want to..I know he is depressed..could depression alone cause this?
- very quick to fall in love, amazing sex, made me feel awesome - july 2011
- perfectionist. I made him angry and embarrassed him. Everyone around was more in awe of his reaction than my action. He started textig another lady persuing her behind my back for 3 weeks after that.
- I broke up with him, he told a friend women are crazy. lol he denied (as did she) that it was serious she apologized said she wanted the attention just getting out of a break up they had been friends for years balhh blahh
- I felt bad and asked him back into my life.. He stalled and hestitated and still kept in contact with girl but finally we were hanging out again..
- I always bought him gifts etc..he never got me a thing.
- he told me about past x's sexual realtionship didnt need to know..
- when i got angry at things he would give me silent treatment, wouldnt respond to texts. cut me off all together. I would always ask him back and apologize..like he was training me not to say anything about his behaviours
- He would push my buttons enough to sabatage outtings planned with my kids etc. Not only did i telling him how i feel break us up , push him away, it also hurt my kids.
- He walked away from 3 of his own kids from 3 different mom's and says he cannot see them..he is however able to see his eldest dtr however blames the mother(s) and says he cant deal with the mothers controll issues. lol
- I was crying one night as he was with holding intimacy from me..for a long time. I kept thinking it was me as he always wanted me in that way..in fact for 8 months he would only come around for that..little did i know.. HE would text for a few days, I would ask him over, he'd come over I hoped we would make plans he would make plans and cancell or ignore me..so the cycle cont.. He accused me of being impatient and not very understanding. Anyway i was crying and instead of holding me, he asked me if i wanted him to leave.
- He quit his job becasue he says he is depressed and is going to group therapy. It has been a long time and he wont get a job. He is depressed about not being able to see his kids.. His depression is situational, and he says he doesnt know if he will get better. If he stays on the system though he wont have to pay child support as he will have nothing. He doesnt want to pay as he cant see the kids. Every avenue I can come up with every suggestion I have use he throws up barriers.
- I have went to his house after he gave me st to ask him back and he tells me to go..doesnt want to talk
- he wont tell me he loves me when hes mad at me
- he blames x's , his mom, me everyone for his issues
- he says he feels dead inside, he thinks he may be afraid of intimacy maybe why lack of interest in sex, he says he cant give me what i need, he feels broken. Says since he couldnt see his last dtr. I heave heard tales of this before..one girl he was dating actually believe she was moving in with him..then all ofthe sudden he is dating and married. Ouch.
- He and his gf planned his eldest now 11 dtr. Not living together or anything. She wouldnt have it as he was with other women. He asked her not to move in with him but to have his child. Wow. He never did commit to her. infact by the time that baby was born he had dated and was engaged to be married. he doesnt drink or smoke or drugs..he also dreams of travelling and winning lottery and building and buying property ..nothing wrong with dreaming but it takes up a lot of his time.
- any little extra cash he gets or did get as he made really good money from july 2011 and feb 2013 he doesnt(didnt) even buy me a card, a 2 dollar rose at the corner store nothing..but will buy himself a 35 dollar memory card
- every converstation is all about him, he has no interest in my life he admits he is self absorbed because he is depressed. He said he cant see how people can do this to him. with hold his kids. I suggest getting a lawyer can get one free as he makes nothing..he said he doesnt want to deal with the mothers and he will only end up back in court in a few years and if he has a job wont get a lawyer free and will go thru it all over again. He also blames the 9 yr old for not asking to see him.
- he has been cought in his early 20s for soliciting prostitution. Was an undercover cop.
- he has been caught masterbating to gay porn by his at the time wife she said he wanted porn more than her. She left after 6 months
- He would contact when he wanted
- since feb 2013 he has been great there when he says he will be, but again, if i get angry, he leaves..i think it is his traiing. I need to stop this nonsense but I question if it is my wacked perspective or is all of this wrong? He really twists things around..gas lights.
- I caught him on dating site 2 days after we broke up and he could have been on before that..a freind of mine told me. I dont feel very important. He said he did it because he wanted to find out if the way he felt was me or him or what. Nice at my expense..meanwhile still keeping me stringing. thats ok I am suppose to understand.
- the more i ask for things the more he resists I almost have to use reverse psychology on him.
- funny he is good with my kids..a bit strict but so was my day so I assume that is normal. I dont stick to my guns..obviously. lol
- even when things were good..he would talk separate from me and the kids. It was always oh i love being with you and the kids, you do so much for me..I rememeber we had a fight, he went home and like usual i went over a day later..i said I am sorry i dont want to do this I just want to be part of your life and his response was with tears that i do so much for him. lol
- why he got married she did him a huge favour. nice.
- he cant take responsibility for anything but i keep thinking he will get better
- his depression, he doesnt want to get better..he enjoys it i think.
he has a lot of guilt..says how can i live happy knowing i cant see my kids
he is afraid, he doesnt want to get hurt.
- i dont think he has empathy at all
what so u think?