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He got caught AGAIN stealing! shocking story girls.

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#1 Sep 1 - 5AM
blueeyes
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He got caught AGAIN stealing! shocking story girls.

Well, not so shocking theses days! Not only did I just yesterday have the Dr. Diagnosis my H as a Narc but I also got a shocking letter in the mail. He got caught stealing on 08-18-2010! That was 11 days ago.
We are in marriage counseling because he started Decem of 2009 stealing clothes for HIMSELF. It was gross and I confronted him in January and he swore he would stop. I explained how would you feel sitting in jail when u teach our kids not to steal. Well in April the cops came to my home and arrested him for stealing at the local dept store in our town. He made bail and again swore lies! Then, he got that job while I was out on maternity and 3 wks into it again, cops here! My teenagers were away thank god! So then it was war and therapy! In therapy he swore he has not stolen since June. He lied about getting fired saying someone GAVe him the items! Just last week in counseling he said to the dr and myself "I learned my lesson idk who that guy was and I guess I was depressed and wanted new stuff". Now I get a letter from that same store that he stole aug 18th! Wtf? So I asked to talk to him last night. I sadi "hey I know we are incouseling and the dr told ud to try to be nice and I have and ur not responding. I am trying and you are not. You also swore you wouldn't steal!" I tave him the letter, he read it and LIED! Whatever! It never stops. I told him what I NEED from a marriage. I need love affection partnership and trust with rspect and I stated ye has neglected me and I won't have it. He got a lil heated and said we need a metiator and will discuss this in counseling cuz he is rtreating me that way because I am flipping out all the time. I calmly said "yea, I'm flipping cuz of your actions. He got up and said "I will not engage in this until dr appt at 4 pm tomorrow". I said "yup, and now I will go to bed alone neglected again and you do not care " he said not true! Girls, I need to end our marriage! This couselor can't help HIM. BTW, aug 18 the day he stole, he did it right after our 2nd dr appt! SICK MAN!

Sep 1 - 5AM
Sherbear
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Oh Timmy....

I am so sorry you are going thru this with kids, esp so young. But you are right, you need to end your marriage. I can hear in your owrds how strong you are and your gut is screaming to you to take back your life. You can do this and once NC begins, it gets easier everyday. I literally have felt myself leaving his darkness. I am rooting for you, sweetie!
Sep 1 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
sweetsamm
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clothes,..really?

The thing that struck me most about this,is that he is stealing fricking CLOTHES for himself!! It sounds like u have your hands full at home and hes thinking about how he looks?? I dont know your whole story,but when im buying new clothes,im trying to impress somebody......this man is a nutjob,liar,and ass. I was in your situation w a narc and teenager AND baby..i left w nothing but my kids and clothes,moved in w my parents....it's soooooo hard,but u deserve better:)
Sep 1 - 7AM (Reply to #7)
blueeyes
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yes, clothes for him!

Sam, I have 3 kids, one is 2 months old and 2 teen girls. We walk around in hand me downs cuz I'm bankrupt and he looks like a Nike advertizement! In therapy he said "I'm so ashamed and stole clothes to feel better cuz I was depressed I'm not working and watching my pregnant wife bust her ass". Uhm, yea, so steal school supplies or maxi pads for our teens??? Right? Nope, selfish jerk!
Sep 1 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
blueeyes
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strong

Thanks for the strong compliment, I'm not feeling strong but I will. I deserve a good man. Except I feel duped and dumb cuz I am intelligent. I'm question my judge of character which I used to take pride in. Yes, I added a picture because I'm not afraid of being found by him! Everything he has done to me? I feel I have every right to speal w others who have been screwed!
Sep 1 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
NoNarcingZone
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Sticky Fingers

...equals sticky situations. It's time to throw in the towel Timmy12Boy. No amount of counseling is going to EVER help him! Being a klepto is part of his disorder. My N/SH (before we were together) was caught stealing baseball cards out of Safeway. At his age?! He had money in his pocket. Their behavior is shocking. It's best to cut your losses (him - though, he's no real loss!). Don't look for remorse from him for how he's treated you. Trust me, those feelings of being duped will pass. Our intellect is what we use to WALK AWAY! Be inspired about what you are...a wonderful mother of 3!

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Sep 1 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
blueeyes
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nonarcingzone- Thanks

Klepto is part od this disorder? Yes, my N's mother said when he was 11 he had money, yet stole..He couldn't explain it. Neither could he? Amamzing
Sep 1 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
Used
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yes to that

both n ,s stole, the n was so petty he stole shampoo, a small one he stuck up his sleeve, he used to go into a well known burger place, with a carrier bag, and steal toilet paper. if we were having coffee he stole the cruet set. he even stole what was free, example, in a shop free cakes, he would take a handful. i always said n,s where greedy they want your time, your love, your admiration ,your all,your support, andall must be for free and give nothing back but pain.what pathetic empty people, and even the poorest of them are mean and materilistic.