he asked me to help him

today after somethings have sank in after talking about the project yesterday...

he actually asked me for suggestions-

supposedly when he used to talk to me during the day it was very draining for him-and after we got done on the phone he still wanted to continue to talk to me and he couldnt so he was unable to perform any work.he did nothing after we would talk.

I was puzzled by this really- to think there is some truth in this... However, he also said there are people he avoids because he cant get them off the phone (um he would never get off the darn phone and he was never like he is now) hurtfult o hear something like that.

so as he seemed to really want my help I told him I was not a therapist I can no longer try to help or fix him.

I said usually people like him and myself dont mesh...as I always have time to complete all projects etc and still take multiple breaks a day... in fact talking to friend during the day gives me a boost to keep on plugging during the day.

I also told him that even though he no longer talks to me on the phone- there will still be something else, someonelse...because it is who he is. ( he didnt want to admit this, but it is so true) He is incapable of just working...
he also once again tried to take on part of the project he doesnt need to and i refused his offer stating that he would only turn around and tell me I cost him time and money and demand payment.

Like I said a lot of what was said did not sit well with me...and I am working thru that today.

He also admited that the gf- thinks he is a fool for continuing to get back involved in the project- so he admitted he had to lie to her about me... to save himself basically but how on earth does she NOT know what he is. NOT know - is she that snowed, seriously that she thinks I was using him... he kept quiting and demanding stuff be paid when he offered it free etc- he said we can no longer talk at nite because of the gf (wth did he tell her about me) jerk!

today- I am sorting thru it, processing all of it, but to be honest , there is no telling anymore what is the truth. Good thing is it seems after next month maybe the project will be done...i can only hope.
Seriously asking me for help.... really? So, again it is when he wants to talk he will...and he made it clear when he needs to get off the phone he has to get off the phone ( i told him to not bother to call I wont answer) I mean really no one behaves this way!
the thing with this situation is I dont know if he is really busy or this is just some control thing, something to save face with the gf(who thinks he is a lug) or what...either way it doesnt work for me..such a drastic shift...too drastic...oh and he said to me that usually friends are understanding when it involves a change that a friend needs to make to survive..

hopefully the project will be done an over with sooner than later sometime next month. I always seem to feel some sort of anxiety 9what is that feeling, anyone know?