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#1 Sep 25 - 6PM
thisisnotfun
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Having a bad day

Having a bad day. I was doing so well, and now I can't stop crying. I've been in NC for over 2 weeks and I'm starting to doubt myself. I know he doesn't care, I know he is messed up but I still can't seem to get it together today. God, I hate this.;..;

Sep 26 - 5AM
dolce (not verified)
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We all have to go through

We all have to go through this part of the grieving. I know it's hard but you have us to help you. You are not alone. Keep reading here. The more you read the more you discover their true identity, and you are less likely to reconnect because you have too much info about how they target you from the beginning for their own gain and dont give a rats ass about you. You come to realize that it was all a sham and he wants you to be in pain.That he's a dickhead. Cold heartless piece of shit that would get worse and worse should you reconnect because thats the nature of the beast. You might try to say it all wasnt THAT bad right now. I did that too. But it gets worse. Much worse. Get mad. Get mad instead of sad and realize how he just lied to you and used you for what he needed you for, then discarded you like yesterdays trash. You are worth so much more. You are so much better than him. Let someone else take his sick games and all this pain. But not you. You are moving on. You have us by the hand and you are walking away to a new and good life. A life thats your own. A happy and decent life. You can do this, sister. Clean house. Throw out everything that reminds you of him. Redecorate. Move things around. Take this sad energy and transform it for your good. ~Free to Be~
Sep 25 - 6PM
agilitysb (not verified)
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I feel your pain too

I am having one of those weeks too. I do not know why I miss her because all she brought was her jealousy, anger and verbal abuse. We think of the fantasy person we wished they were and do not remember the Real person that they are. We need to remember that we deserve a healthy respectful relationship. Marriage/relationships are supposed to be happy, not diminish your self esteem and lose your sense of self.
Sep 25 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
thisisnotfun
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Thank you I needed that.

Thank you I needed that.
Sep 26 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
Scoop
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I have felt flat all week ,

I have felt flat all week , like a dull ache , this morning i woke up at 5 30 and just started crying . I have been over 3 months nc but its all still there at the back of my head . At 3 months i would be over any other kind of break up and at 5 30 this morning i remembered Barbara saying "18 MONTHS" . I can tell you that it gets slowly better as the weeks go by , at 2 weeks with you its hard , man , very hard . Cry , let it all out ,cry some more , write it all down , post on here , keep talking as we are all here for you , you are not alone . Big Love Peru x
Sep 26 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
Rose-Marie (not verified)
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I have felt flat too

I am four months NC and stlll very down and sad - also the crying. There is a difference now though - it is as though the memory of him is fading and sometimes I have a hard job remembering what he looks like. I think a lot of the sadness is due to the fact that we know we are on our own now and have to go on - and then there is the wondering whether we will always be alone, or whether someone normal and nice will come along in the future. I promise you there won't be 18 months of this - we need 18 months to be completely healed from the N and to move on to new and healthier relationships, otherwise we will still be vulnerable to toxic people. It doesn't mean we will feel as we do today for 18 months - I bet with NC many of us will be feeling a lot better by Christmas. Let's hope so. Rosy
Sep 26 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
Barbara (not verified)
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don't want to scare you

took me a lot longer than 18months but then again my life has been a parade of Ns & Ps starting with my mother. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Sep 26 - 10AM (Reply to #5)
Ellen
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Me too

Hello all, I have been split for coming up to 7 months now. NC since an email two weeks ago. I feel very sad. Today i'm at where you say, thinking about it all over and over. Remembering the good. I think i could have dealt with him leaving if it was done in a nice way. To set up another woman for about 5 months previous to leaving is what makes me feel sick, even though he said he got with her after he left. Surely he would have had to make sure she was going to let him live with her. I can't believe he was capable of being that underhanded cos my daughter was 4 months old. I used to think he was confused. If he set this all up that would make him really manipulative and i find that hard to swallow. Why couldn't he just tell me he didn't want to be with us. I would've accepted that and been sad but this way........was it for the maximum effect and attention........that would make him very sick. I can't go on feeling like this.