Have you experienced this?

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#1 Mar 13 - 7AM
Wallace
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Have you experienced this?

Just wondering if any of your ex-N's did this? I divorced my ex-N 6 months ago and have maintained NC other than the odd work-related e-mail (approx twice in the last 8 mo). We are in the same profession but fortunately I don't have to see him but do hear about him in professional circles. It seems since I left him he has turned into an absolute nightmare with all those around him. When we first got together, people kept commenting on how much "nicer" and more "relaxed and easygoing" he was (should have been a red flag right there). Since I left him, he has done another 180 degrees at work and has been really nasty to his staff members, as well as reps and business colleagues. Most of his staff have resigned and even replacement staff members have not lasted long. Fortunately for me, this at least provides vindication as he is busy trashing his own name so nothing he says about me will be taken too seriously. I avoid talking about him with other people and try not to comment when they tell me these things - my silence says enough. I was just wondering if the reason he was so "nice" during our relationship and marriage was because he had me to bully behind the scenes and could project this nice guy image professionally. Any input from anyone who has experienced the same thing or any insight from narc experts?

Mar 14 - 6AM
Wallace
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Thanks for clearing that up

Mar 13 - 6PM
janemarie
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After I left...after the D

Mar 13 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
Renegade
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I need to add here that he

Mar 13 - 6PM
Renegade
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Yes, my ex did the same

Mar 13 - 4PM
Hunter
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I'm confused too. He was nice

Mar 13 - 3PM
Maggster
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