Has your Narc ever been jealous of YOU?

I am facing. The more I appear to be happy and unaffected by him, the more it fuels his desire to destroy me. I feel like I'm in a no win situation.

All psychopaths are jealous of normal people , jealousy is one of the very few emotions they can feel together with fear and anger . They can not tolerate anyone being happy or successfull so they make damm sure you are neither of theses things . Nc contact no contact ! xxxx

of my business and success but i do not sit on my ass smoking pot in a basement watching sports and then mess with the minds of strangers for fun at night...

My D&D started when my business picked up! My business runs hot and cold, when I met him I was at a low, as time went on, I started cashing in, I didn't have as much time to talk with him and wham, jealous. The last time I was there I'm pretty sure he saw my pay check and had a heart attack. Dog training will never be as lucrative as my business! I think once I add up the events, the chick he picked on was far stronger, more attractive, had a better career and didn't need my mommy to support me. In their heads they are perfect, superior to all.. That said it was D&D time!! To answer your question, I think he will stay away, but he is a Narc, be prepared for anything! Hunter

The ex-Psych prof was no Annie Sullivan (who tutored the blind&deaf Helen Keller) or Jaime Escalante (who inspired "Stand and Deliver",teaching math to Hispanic teens in LA) He was VERY jealous of my academic success... but he knew that if he interfered too much with it, he would've gotten tarred&feathered or put in the stocks (the public punishments in Puritan New England-he was from Massachusetts) He'd ALWAYS praise my writing... and I took it as encouragement. He FREAKED when I wrote for the college newspaper about "Twelfth Night",reviewing a performance of it (at the time he was obsessed with "Shakespeare in Love", and he was paranoid that my article was about him) He was intensely jealous of his academically successful father. His father is a Renaissance man-a professor of psychology, writing on birdwatching, organic gardening, complexity research,and a musician. His father also went to Harvard. The only private institution the ex-P went to was the university where his father was a prof. The ex-P was even jealous of MY father, because my father is the Dean of a college at a public university. The ex-P got his master's and Ph.D. at PUBLIC universities (University of Virginia, SUNY Buffalo)... while A LOT of his colleagues went to prestigious private schools. I guess I haven't helped by mentioning my published writing when breaking NC.

with your comment about revenge being so sweet you may become a diabetic!!!! Hilarious! I hope your professional goal is realized and your N will be dished up a huge bitter plate of mushy spinach and sour grapes while you feast on sweet, sweet success! Most sincerely, (determined to never again be) spinning. THE SICK FREAK TRIED HARD BUT HE COULDN'T TAKE ME DOWN.

Yes, he was. Jealous of my job success, jealous that I started dating shortly after we broke up, etc. Narcs by nature are very jealous people. Which is why they choose good, successful people typically to date/marry. So, that person has farther to fall, when the narc knocks them down. Once he has eroded his/her victim’s esteem, mission accomplished. They live to knock down successful people, and bolster their own egos. Everyone is a loser in their eyes….but them. But, truly, they believe themselves to be losers…therefore they project all that venom onto others. It’s so tiring just typing it out, how did I date someone who was so draining? lol

I think one of the RED FLAGS with a NARC is their pervasive jealousy. This was true with the 2 I've known. As long as my exN (female friend) thought she had "it" over me everything was alright (so to speak), but once she thought I had "it" over her, that's when things got really ugly. It was prompted by me starting to date a very eligible bachelor and my exN just couldn't stand to see that I (her ugly, stupid, nasty friend, lol, in her opinion anyway) could ever land a man like him. So she proceeded to try and get me to dump him. That didn't work so she would walk around in her underwear to try and steal his attention from me and when that didn't work either, she discarded me. During the final D&D she said out of nowhere that "there was no way" she "could ever be jealous of me", when I had said nothing of her being jealous. But when she said that it dawned on me that she was extremely jealous. Speaking from experience, be on the lookout for a smear campaign that makes you look like Hitler or the devil himself. However, if the NARC thinks he can still get supply from you he may actually try to buddy up with you but the narc's jealousy usually just makes them D&D you, because your success makes the narc feel like a loser. At the very least your success will be downplayed by the Narc.