Grateful

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#1 Oct 31 - 4PM
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Grateful

Dear xN in my mind,

I'm grateful for the horrible, confusing mind -F**k you put me through. Here's why:

1. I now can see how at times in my life I've hurt other people and may not have handled break ups the best I could have. I am now able to truly feel other people's pain and have extended my compassion to so many others because of the pain you put me through.

2. I am less naive and more willing to accept that not everyone is innately good - most people but not all. I have learned that it is not healthy or good or caring to trust people until you really get to know them.

3. I am very clear now that I deserve to be treated well, and that I don't have to twist myself into a pretzel to make someone like me. I am good enough just the way I am and someone will love me as is.

I won't say thank you, xN, but I am grateful. Beside - being grateful helps to take away your power over me. It frees my soul to receive all the good things that await me.

And I am READY to RECEIVE!!!!!

Not yours ever again,
Me

Oct 31 - 8PM
Hunter
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Excellent!

Excellent!
Oct 31 - 7PM
ally2375
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Excellent post

I echo your list completely. I'd add that perhaps someone had to break me open in order to prompt me to face latent pain I've carried a long time. I've been forced to deal with wounds I didn't even know were crippling me. It's like he broke my emotion bone, giving me the chance to reset it straighter than it was before. :) So, I'm grateful as well. (He'll be holding his breath awhile waiting for a "thanks" though.)
Oct 31 - 7PM
wannaletgo22
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i love this

Couldn't agree more!
Oct 31 - 5PM
Sparrow
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Nicely put. :)

Nicely put. :)
Oct 31 - 4PM
spinning
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Love this, ready!

Outstanding! I could have written it myself. I will never say thank you either, but believe it or not, I am grateful! I love that I can honestly say the best f'n thing disordered freak boy ever did for me in the entire six years we were "together" was D & D me so badly I never thought I'd survive! Not only have I survived, I have THRIVED and I'm still going for the gold...still learning and growing every single day. HE ACTUALLY GAVE ME A GIFT! I crack up every time I think of it that way. His master plan DID NOT WORK! I love that! Thank you for sharing this bold truth, ready. I am so happy for you and cannot wait for all the great things that you will receive the more you sweep the disordered ashes from your life! Hugs from, (striving to never again be) spinning. NO WAY!

spinning

Oct 31 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
ready2receive
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To (not) SPINNING (anymore)

Thanks for the hugs and the well wishes. I wish the same to you. The best revenge is to live a great life. I always enjoy your posts. I never plan on spinning again. Still dizzy from the last time! Rock on.
Oct 31 - 4PM
sciencegirl
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Fabulous!

Thank you for that empowering letter. I have had a bit of a crazymaking weekend due to my ex-nh to be in terms of our children. This reminds me that the children and I are worthy of being treated humanely. We are ready to receive as well! God bless.
Oct 31 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
ready2receive
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your children

Yes, you and your children deserve to have a normal life. They must know that it is no okay for a human being to treat another living creature the way Ns treat us. When my xN wanted to "apologize" to my children (he is not their father), they said, "Why, he hasn't done anything to us. He was just being himself....and he is just a jerk. That's just who he is and we don't want to have anything to do with him." Amen. Gotta love kids. Be strong!
Oct 31 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
Blythebloo
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It's amazing how our children

It's amazing how our children can read the n's in our lives! My son was just 13 when he told me the n was indeed a N. He said I know kids at school who act just like him and I call those kids narcissists. If I had only listened to him. He is way smart beyond his years. Fast forward 2 years at almost 16, his maturity level ranks way above the N that is court ordered to not be around my 2 boys. They want nothing to do with him. I see why finally. Lessons learned.
Oct 31 - 4PM
Journey
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Good one! Glad you can see

Good one! Glad you can see the positive from the negative, that is sooo important and difficult to do!

Journey on...