I have been NC for the most part for almost 4 months. This is the goodbye letter I composed at that time. A month or two ago, he hovered indirectly. I actually sent this with several articles attached. I know it had no impact on him, but it felt pretty good to me. His response was that I couldn't handle rejection which was funny, because the last time I saw him 4 months ago, he held my hand, kissed me and told me he would see me soon. (this was after 6 months of no physical contact). I hope you get a laugh out of it. I smile every time I read it. :)
This "hover" further confirms to me that you are a textbook narcissist. I have attached several articles. They are so insightful. You have followed each and every step in perfect sequence: idealize, devalue, discard with many hovers in between, each following a silent treatment slightly longer than the time before. What's so ironic to me is that all narcissists think they are unique, different and special, but in fact, they are all exactly alike. It's a fascinating personality disorder. Unfortunately for me, it took me exactly 1 year to realize this. So game well played! You have a lot of experience at playing no doubt. Once I figured it out, everything made sense from your initial love bombing, the hot and cold stages, the silent treatments, the devalue and discard phases, your mommy issues, your drug and alcohol addictions, your panic attacks, your numerous affairs, your lack of empathy for others, and of course, your sexual dysfunction. All textbook! Most notable however, was your manipulation of my emotions. You staged the perfect situations so that I would react just the way you planned and you could then say that I was explosive or mean and it caused you to "back off." Mindfuckery at its finest. Although I know that almost everything that came out of your mouth was a lie, there were a few things that you said that were true: 1. "I can't give you what you want." True. You can't give me love, honesty or intimacy. 2. "I'm a bad person. I do bad things." True. Good people don't lie, manipulate, and use others. 3. "I know a good woman when I see one." True. Much too good for you. 4. You are not a number two kind of girl." True. Nor anywhere else down your list of supply sources that you recycle when you get bored with your new victims. But you know me, I always look for the good in negative situations. And what I realized is that I am not interested in the crap like you that's out there. I have a great man at home. Please don't confuse any of this as me being angry, explosive, hurt or any emotion other than complete ambivalence. But enjoy this while you can because one day when your charm and good looks are gone, you will be left with nothing. No friends, no wife, no children...no supply sources to keep you company or to stroke that very fragile ego. And don't bother to respond to this, because I've blocked you from every form of contact and if you do decide to create another secret email address, I will delete it before I read it. I've heard enough of your projection. Whether you consider this reply positive or negative supply, I know it will stroke your ego because it's a reply. Enjoy it. It's the last one you'll ever get from me. Cheers asshole.