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#1 Feb 22 - 10AM
Deadsilence
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Give back what he dishes out...

Well after nc since October the narc txt me on Valentines day ....

Him: hi
Me: nothing
Him: I just want to know if your ok
Me: nothing ( of course you do; others arent giving you ur supply)
Him: can you just let me know your ok and I wont bother you again
Me: nothing
Him: I know you hate me
Me: nothing
Him: I Still care
Me: nothing
Him: you must really hate me
Me: nothing
Me: finally after 4 hours of nothing... I've decided to respond

I said " please respect MY feelings and leave alone!
Him: I just wanted to know if your ok
Me: nothing
Him: I still care and I know you hate me
Me: I don't hate you; I have NO feelings for you and that would require to feel
Something, which I no longer have. FEELINGS!!
Me: please loss my number
Him: this makes me think why were no longer together
Me: ya, why start now ( the thinking part)
Him: how is Trixie ( my dog)
Me: what do you want from me???!!
Him: nevemind
Me: exactly
Me: lose my number!
Him: your so cold
Me: evil!
Him: scary

See when you mirror they're behavior it KILLS them! They love to turn it around like your the one with the problem; and when you throw it back to them they freak out knowing your no longer under the supply spell.... They now have to start over with they're next victim knowing in the back of theyre mind you will never be the back up supply! EVER!!!

G

Feb 22 - 10AM
Disillusionedx2
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you gaave him supply....

Supply is ANY kind of response, no matter your words, actions, reactions, you fed the monster, he know's you will respond, he know's there's the door is still cracked, never mind an exercise in mirroring, you're well past that stage, NC, change your number, don't respond at all, he will be back, been there done it, it started just like this, you can't win this game, he's got supply, believe that, they are greedy, old supply is very much something they will try to go after. _./'..._¸¸.•¤**¤•.¸.•¤**¤•..•¤ **¤ •.¸.•¤**¤•.. *•. .•* *!!!.. best~wishes /.•*•... ¸..•¤**¤•.,.•¤**¤•.*.•¤**¤•.¸ .•¤ **¤•

stay~strong

Feb 22 - 10AM
really
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But you just WERE back-up

But you just WERE back-up supply to him. Next time, don't respond at all. I'm sorry, but he'll be back.
Feb 22 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
Deadsilence
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Your right!

and I won't respond! It was just instant gratification for me this time
Feb 22 - 10AM
Hunter
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LOL

This was a great example! Good Job! They are so predictable. Idealk
Feb 22 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Deadsilence
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Toadily

This is sooo out of character for me too... I know it's not the end of him. He will let this go into the cool down period and hoover again.... Next time I'm telling him I'm happily engaged and again respect my feelings that I have none for him anymore. The narc would thrive the fact that I hate him just as much as to still liking him....cause that is some sort of "feeling" towards them. "the supply"
Feb 23 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
Disillusionedx2
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engaged?

Why?...you want to become a liar for the sake of fending off an N/P, change your number, make it impossible to contact you if you are unable to resist his hoovers, telling him anything is the supply he is looking for, these guys aren't exactly stupid, he will know you aren't being honest, don't lower your morals/values to appease him, they do enough of that, RESTRICT HIS ACCESS TO YOU and remain NC, it's the only way to go, best wishes.

stay~strong

Feb 22 - 11PM (Reply to #4)
happydaysahead
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Don't tell him anything !!

That will get to him more than telling him you are engaged. Do not flatter these guys. ANY type of reaction to them is a win in their eyes !!
Feb 22 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
Susan32
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I know the ex-P WANTED me to hate him...

The ex-Psych professor, after the final D&D, was practically begging me to HATE him. I had told him that my friends hated him, that some of his students did too... and it just about made his day. But then I said I hated his ACTIONS, not him. I told him to his face that I didn't hate him, just what he had done. He couldn't get it. It's as if I had taken his nice birthday cake and flung it into the gutter.