Funny first attempt to date - Oy!

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#1 Sep 28 - 2AM

ifinallygotit

Funny first attempt to date - Oy!

I have gotten many hits on internet dating site but have never dated anyone since N left last summer. So, I finally reluctantly, called the funniest smartest guy that wanted to talk to me. So this is where he is at:

- in the middle of finalizing a divorce
-planning to collect alimony!
-unemployed
-suing his former employer
-moving into a mother-on-law apt
-all his money is tied up in a big house that his ex and kids live in
-no GF for the 5 years he has been separated!

Oh lucky me! I would rather work, ride, watch TV and learn from you folks any day! I had to laugh though! How could he think its a good idea to get in a new relationship when his entire life is up in the air? And this was the smartest of the men or rather the most clever writer....

#2 Sep 28 - 9PM

ifinallygotit

ok ladies don't be sad that there are so many jerks!

It has always been that way! The nice ones do get married and have families - but a few nice guys wanted to date me (lost their wives in their 40's and 50's) and I was way too screwed up and dysfunctional for those poor blokes last winter! I truly thought it was funny that this guy is looking for a relationship when his life is a complete mess! he is also 10 years younger than me and I made it clear I was only looking to socialize and not looking for a partner... Of course I will not call him again but I feel a bit sorry for the dude! His wife is a big time attorney so good luck to him! I do not give my number out - I make them give me their number and block mine at least until I like someone. I am going to just try to enjoy my life - I have been alone for a year now so not too lonely yet - the haze is just lifting from the abandonment - I may be older but I think I have alot to offer! I will never be someone's sex toy again - um what is sex again?

#3 Sep 28 - 8PM

onwithmylife

It is

SOOO hard to meet any decent guy on a dating internet website and i have been looking for several years, I am beginning to think all the good guys are already married, especially when you get older,,it is a nightmare.

#4 Sep 28 - 3PM

scsweetie

Oh my goodness!!

I have been on and off dating sites (also where i met my N) for the last 5 years. Have met very few "good guys". Most of them are married, separated, looking for sex, real jerks....etc. I was beginning to think there is something wrong with me. Wow ladies, you just proved me wrong, lol. Gosh, i am so tired of it all. What happened to all the real men. I am ready to just give up and stay alone. Seems better than the alternative.

#5 Sep 28 - 2PM

Better than ever

I met my exNarc on a dating

I met my exNarc on a dating site too...He hid his profile while we were together (2 years) but I am sure he was sending out winks, etc.....these narcs can NEVER be alone....it's just a cycle to them. I just started going back on to "see" what's out there....it's pretty grim ....How do people meet nowadays?

#6 Sep 28 - 9PM (Reply to #10)

FarmGirl

There are good men!

take a class in cooking butchery charcuterie cheese-making wine tasting wine making yoga meditation eco-anything farming chickens in the city you name it - but honey - unless you want another doozy stay off of dating sites, out of bars, away from gyms, and avoid churches (just IMO...not trying to offend...)

#7 Sep 28 - 8PM (Reply to #8)

onwithmylife

better than ever

They say do what you like to do and you will meet people, well BS to that because i do things i enjoy and have not met anyone! I am as much as loss as you.............

#8 Sep 28 - 9PM (Reply to #9)

ifinallygotit

lol!!!

sometimes it does work to follow your passions and meet others this way but all the men in my sport (which takes over 10 hours/week) are gay! I went to a friend's book signing party and met an interesting guy, director of a local cable channel, but only interesting for conversation = fat, bald, old! I am in my 50's but am slim, athletic with a younger presence - I just cannot lie down with an old fat man - ugh!!! I have only been with men who are athletic with nice bodies and since I take care of mine, I just don't think I could ever be attracted to someone who has not. Jeez, I may be alone for awhile because I am not easily attracted to men and it took me 3 years to really warm up to exN who I thought was a silly goof before I fell in love (or sickness depending on how you look at it) Oh well, sanity is good! I do kind of believe i will know love one more time...

#9 Sep 28 - 2PM (Reply to #6)

Used

meeting s

well in my narcs case, supermarkets, buses, coffee houses, pubs, trains, f/b, park, shops,libraries,probley dating sites, i never looked, i hope he has a photo of him self in his 20,s...cos a photo now, he looks like a beached whale, in cargo shorts,walking up the street, walking down the street,an incident,where he can suss out the vulnerable,his anger managment class, the probation office, the criminal court, prison,...i think i have covered most of his TRAWLING PLACES...

#10 Sep 28 - 2PM (Reply to #7)

Better than ever

Used...

that was too funny!!!!!

#11 Sep 28 - 12PM

Hunter

OK , that's funny!! Thanks

OK , that's funny!! Thanks for a good laugh!! Sounds like his wife dumped him for a good reason! Hunter

#12 Sep 28 - 10AM

deckard

internet dating BAD

That's how I met ER. I have never seen so many LOSERS on dating sites (and they are usually cross-pollinated on ALL of the dating sites). But this one takes the cake: I started talking to a nice guy, family man type who lives nearby. My age, not especially attractive but seemed funny and intelligent. In one of my research sessions for an article I was writing for a magazine about online webcam/chat dating sites I did a search and this SAME guy that I had talked to on a NICE online dating site - shows up on this sleazy site AND he's looking for MEN as well as women. Holy bisexuality Batman! I took myself off all the dating sites after that.

#13 Sep 28 - 9AM

drcrnp

Dating Sites

OMG here are just a few: The one who wanted to see me every day after one date and phoned/e-mailed/texted several times a day and even had his friends leave me a voice mail when i wouldn't respond The one who took me on one very lovely date after great e-mail correspondence, then texted the next night wanting me to drop what I was doing at 11 pm to come sleep with him - later told me "after the witty conversation we just didn't connect." The one who wanted to get to know me and was available to meet "any Monday through Thursday after 5." The one who could never get together for more than an hour at a time The one who only texts, never phones, and thinks it's OK to ask me out at 5:00 pm for that evening The one who patronized me and expected me to fall all over myself in awe of his having published a lousy book The one who had 8 drinks at dinner (first and last date) The one who wanted me to sleep with him while he still dated other women The one who corresponded avidly, couldn't wait to meet me, and didn't show up "because he figured I'd be like all the other women who stood him up." There are lots more. About 20 guys in 3 months, all losers. After being put through the grinder by the N, I have run out of any patience or tolerance. I have two delightful candidates now, one introduced by a mutual friend, and one someone I've known for 10 years as a friend. There is a whole lot to be said for avoiding internet dates. And oh yes I met my N on the internet. Where he never stopped posting the whole 3 years we were together. Ugh.

#14 Sep 28 - 8AM

Trulybroken

Honestly, I did the whole

Honestly, I did the whole dating site thing and I've met 8 guys over 9 month period (some just talked on tel) and every single one of them was "unusual" I thought maybe my judgement is off because I am still damaged from the last relationship, but when I went on dating sites back 6 yrs ago, I also met a string of losers. I met my last ex N on a dating site and I thought he was a loser also, but he was relentless and contacted me so many times it actually creeped me out. Then I gave in because I was lonely. (filler as Goldie says). This time around, I met a great guy who owns a few successful companies, good looking, kind, good dad, we had tons in common etc. We had the greatest convo's etc and he wanted to cook me dinner. I txt him last week to say "When did you want to do the dinner thing" His reply "It will cost you 2 handjobs" I was so disappointed and just replied "You may need to find yourself a whore, sorry" And never talked to him again. Another guy was "just about to tell his wife he wanted a divorce" LOSER! Another guy was in jail for murder and drug dealing Another guy was again, nice sweet, kind, good business, nice home, nice kids. He even hired my nephew for summer work and when I told him I would not sleep with him right away, he sent me a nasty txt then ignored me. I can tell you more, but you get the gist. Lots of creeps out there. I took myself off the dating site and will wait until I am emotionally ok to date again. All this dating with losers just makes me lose more faith in the world.

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