FOUND on my car

This is Chris, I am a Dad, I have a 30 yr old daughter and I am feeling parental concern here. A Restraining Order will protect you at work and at home and create a legal physical boundary(remember those from before dangersignalsaboudingboy entered your life) between you and him. If he penetrates it he will be endangering his freedom. He is a bully. He is pissing me off. Judges and the legal system do not like it when boys don't obey Restraining Orders. You deserve peace, he isn't giving you any. The sooner his information is put in the system, the better for all now and for the future. Narcs don't like accountability, and this will give him something to really ponder. He needs to live with the consequences of his actions. chris

Have you obtained a restraining order yet? Concerned that he's showing up at your new place...that is not a good sign.

My god this guy has no shame. My N has never chased me, he is way too proud for that. N's are usually lazy. I am surprised he hasn't moved on to an easier target. I'm glad you are being so strong, it must be hard. I'd be tempted to be firm with him too. Next time he pops around tell him that what he did and who he is makes you want to shover your fingers down your throat, you will never see anything good in him, and the image of him and anal annie will never stray far from your mind when you think of him. Tell him to fuck off or you will call the police and get a restraining order. Once he realises that you see him for the disgusting pig he is, he will realise his games are a waste of time.

Ok, if you want my opinion you need to play hard ball to stop this loser from doing this stuff. I did it from day one. I called the police everytime he showed up at my house and got him sent away. Any abusive emails or text messages were reported to the police for harassment and they have called him for me telling him to leave me alone. The harassment has slowed down, but it hasn't stopped. Mine is violent and I expected a bigger song and dance from him, but I've learnt he is pretty pathetic! All talk! Having said that, I've called the police to remove him from blocking off the driveway and revving his engine 5 times... Play hard ball, he'll get the message. Document EVERYTHING, keep every text, email and record the times he has tried to call you. Also record blocked number calls and if you get any prank calls. I've cut all ties with any friends who are still in contact with him as well, nobody other than your chosen few and on here should know about how your feeling or your life. Because it WILL get back to him. He can't have any ammo to use on you from this point on. Your focus is now 100% on you and your healing, he must be completely cut off! Sorry to sound so passionate about this, but I've been through the same thing very recently and I know how horrible, weird and harassing they can get... Proud of you for staying NC badabing. The other thing I noticed with myself is when they start to stop, that's hard too because the CD kicks and we wonder why they no longer care enough to try anymore. There is always a small part of us that wants them too, but the fact remains they do not care and never did, they just want their power and supply back but if you play it tough and it becomes to hard for them they will move on to an easier target.

He's trying everything. Hunter

So, he thinks that insinuating that you are immature.....that's his strategy to get you back? LOLOL

Whatever he had in mind for a supply source bailed so now he's on "gotta have it" mode... Hot and Cold...wants you to bite, because you didn't bite now you're punished cause you rejected him. He's a sick bastard bar none...I remember when the narc I was with and I broke up the first time over the woman that lived two and a half hours away...a friggin cyber affair no less of only a month...he called her like his pants were on fire!...incessantly, obsessively - 7:30 am, 7:45 am, 815 am, intervals like that until seven pm at night. They're sick and they're mental. I've never seen such bizarre behaivor my whole damn life....AND the OW was ignoring his calls, so he kept on and on and on and on ....non stop like a true stalker. Take it to the cops get documentation, don't take his crap. I may sound jaded but where I'm at...looking back it's all really bullshit. The pining, the pain, the crying...they're animals...plain and simple...predatory, instinctual...you want to "love" an animal...plenty of stray dogs and cats up for adoption. "Twilight" is about vampires...he knows exactly what it is he's trying to scare the crap out of you. I do suggest you keep a safe distance, but don't let fear rule your life. He comes near you call 911. Send a certified letter BACK OFF, and leave it at that and get on with healing and living. Pain will come, it's going to hurt but how the hell does one have a relationship with a psychopath? I think today the real reality hit - I haven't wanted him back...but the real reality hit and I'm not scared, but really he's walking human waste. I'd end it with hugs but after speweing this, not sure if it's the right..."closing"...but I'm telling you like it is...this IS what it is...for every single one of us...it will take you time to see it this way, but if you can do it now...if you can accept what I'm saying...you can save yourself alot of pain and alot of time. Hugs!...there I said it anyway cause I do mean that...but yes, the reality finally hit...so what stage would that be now? I've been over him a long time but every so often I get disgusted...

Maybe she shouldn't be deleting anything he sends her in case he revs up the stalking behavior and she needs it for evidence? And what if the voice mails have threats the police would need to hear?

The guy is obviously an emotional vampire and he leaves you Twilight -- which is about vampires! It would be funny. . . except these narcs are so screwy it's not. So sorry he's messing with you. What a classless jerk. If he had any decency, he'd leave you alone. If *he* was mature, he'd leave you alone. Instead he puts a juvenile fiction book on your car to say to you that you're lacking maturity. What's that -- yes, more irony! Glad you deleted those message without listening. Now throw that book in the trash. Vampirony. Classic and pathetic.

and keep hitting delete. It's too bad he knows where your new place is... He's so typical. They profess to love us madly but the minute we stop the chaos they get as nasty as they can... ho hum...how boring. Bada, I'm very proud of you. Stay strong. You're going to need it. If his stalker-ish behavior persists, call the cops and make a report. Seriously. In the meantime, jot this down in a journal or log book. A paper trail is very important...I don't say this to scare you. It's likely as soon as he secures some trusty (reliable) new supply he'll back off...but probably not until then. Hugs to you braveheart and good vibes for a NARC FREE WEEKEND. Most sincerely (not) spinning. I REFUSE TO. CHAOS AND DESTRUCTION HAVE NO PLACE IN MY LIFE.