Found this link on the web

Wow, this is a great article. I love how the author explains it. Brilliant the way she helps put it into perspective. A mental illness is like a blanket over someone's personality, whereas a personality disorder is engrained and interwoven into that person. It is the very fabric of that person, which is why they can never change. Thank you for posting this!!!!

Great find imabloke! So good I had to bookmark it for later read. Like a great teacher, they do have the skills to educate not only themselves but others! But back to my comments: I had some tell me how maybe they can change? Maybe there is a cure? Maybe if they go see a priest or therapist thing might improve for them and I? With age they will mellow and it might not be so bad dealing with them? The answers to these statement ARE all the same. Sorry but this statement really shines through and tells me what I need to know. “So someone doesn’t have a personality disorder; they ARE the personality disorder. These personality traits are so deeply ingrained that they defy change. That brings me to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). “ To me it’s like telling me not to be whom I AM and they ARE. It reminds me of a TV serials I watch time from time called the mentalist and the main character told his boss at a high school reunion where a murder happened this. “People change but their instincts don’t”. His statement gave me pause for contemplation and how this applies to everyone and also explains our narcissistic counterpart. Most of what NPD’s do is in fact instinctual and not thought out nor even planned just as a young child of 5 or 6 years of age who to role play on instinctual behavior. A child too can act as an adult but only has a level of maturity of that age group which is governed mostly on instinctual behavior that is model based on that child’s personality. In simple terms there are something we can change about ourselves but in the end we ARE who we ARE.... http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/

I'm definitely a nurturer! Even now, after everything I learned, I STILL can't get the fantasy of curing him out of my head! I liked what this guy wrote about thinking of his true self fossilized. There is no cure. It's a fossilized embryo. His momma killed his true self over twenty five years ago. He is an onion who can only make you cry . . . brilliant!

6. Selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends Think – You’re just lucky I chose you to be of service to me, as spending time in my presence is reward enough. Sums it up for me. Jackass

great link! thanks for posting.

I found the posts on this link to be very informative.