Forced Acceptance

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#1 Sep 24 - 10AM
Scoop
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Forced Acceptance

There are 7 stages of grief and each stage we go through should happen naturally , we can pin pong form different stages back and forth and being in a narc relationship each stage is maginfide 10 fold but over time we can see that there are definate stages . The final stage is acceptance , acceptance is at a long road of recovery and again should happen naturaly through time and NC .

Yesterday my friend called me who was in a psycopathic relationship , he has been doing really well with his recovery and i have been chatting to him each week , yesterday he was in tears , he had broken NC , he had looked at his narcs FB and had found out she was in a realtionship , he was inconsolable with pain . The reason for this is he had just had FORCED ACCEPTANCE , way before he was ready to touch that stage of grief he was slap bang in the middle of it like a drowning man with out a rope . What should have been a positive part of grief had put him back to stage one . In early recovery one of the reason we say NC is so we can grieve at our own pace . The griving process is universal , it transends cultures and faith , it is a miraculous system put into place like a cushion , if we start to mess with it by finding out information we are not ready to deal with it can cause terrible set backs .

NC means NC , it means blocking the narc completely from your life so you dont get to hear what he is doing , who he is with , what he did at the weekend .. you dont want to know anything about him , it is hard , the curiosity can be overwhelming ... but not as overwhelming as finding out somthing you are not ready to hear .. Big hugs xx

Sep 25 - 12AM
evergreen
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sudden shock.

Sep 24 - 11PM
Walkingonsunshine
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So true, I'm so glad I never

Sep 24 - 4PM
rosedewittbukater
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forced acceptance

Sep 24 - 2PM
Puppy1955
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Thanks scoop. But, in my

Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #11)
TruthbeginsToday
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Puppy

Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #12)
Puppy1955
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Thank u truth..... U r sweet

Sep 24 - 6PM (Reply to #13)
TruthbeginsToday
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yep , Pup

Sep 26 - 3AM (Reply to #14)
Puppy1955
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Yes truth....... Up up and

Sep 24 - 12PM
round3
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acceptance

Sep 24 - 12PM
NoMoreFreakBoy
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So true

Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #8)
Juliette
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YES, YES, YES . . . stay off Facebook!!! :)

Sep 24 - 11AM
TruthbeginsToday
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Scoop is alive and well?

Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
Puppy1955
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Truth

Sep 24 - 10AM
Juliette
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This is TOTALLY what happened to me!

Sep 24 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Lovely1
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Juliette I feel your

Sep 24 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Scoop
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Nothing in healing is an

Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
Juliette
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Oh Scoop, I totally agree with you!