Forced Acceptance
Forced Acceptance
There are 7 stages of grief and each stage we go through should happen naturally , we can pin pong form different stages back and forth and being in a narc relationship each stage is maginfide 10 fold but over time we can see that there are definate stages . The final stage is acceptance , acceptance is at a long road of recovery and again should happen naturaly through time and NC .
Yesterday my friend called me who was in a psycopathic relationship , he has been doing really well with his recovery and i have been chatting to him each week , yesterday he was in tears , he had broken NC , he had looked at his narcs FB and had found out she was in a realtionship , he was inconsolable with pain . The reason for this is he had just had FORCED ACCEPTANCE , way before he was ready to touch that stage of grief he was slap bang in the middle of it like a drowning man with out a rope . What should have been a positive part of grief had put him back to stage one . In early recovery one of the reason we say NC is so we can grieve at our own pace . The griving process is universal , it transends cultures and faith , it is a miraculous system put into place like a cushion , if we start to mess with it by finding out information we are not ready to deal with it can cause terrible set backs .
NC means NC , it means blocking the narc completely from your life so you dont get to hear what he is doing , who he is with , what he did at the weekend .. you dont want to know anything about him , it is hard , the curiosity can be overwhelming ... but not as overwhelming as finding out somthing you are not ready to hear .. Big hugs xx
sudden shock.
So true, I'm so glad I never
forced acceptance
Thanks scoop. But, in my
Puppy
Thank u truth..... U r sweet
yep , Pup
Yes truth....... Up up and
acceptance
So true
YES, YES, YES . . . stay off Facebook!!! :)
Scoop is alive and well?
Truth
This is TOTALLY what happened to me!
Juliette I feel your
Nothing in healing is an
Oh Scoop, I totally agree with you!