First date fell through :(

its a kinda red flag, he emailed you, rather than phone ummmmm...i would play it by ear, wait to see what happens next, if that goes upsidedown....dump him!!!!!!

When I was fresh out of school and starting my very first "grown up" job, I could barely sleep the night before. I was starting an entry-level job at a medical center on a big university campus about 30 minutes from home. I was so geeked. I got up that morning super early. Took great pains with my appearance. Changed outfits 3 or 4 times. Left the house early. Commuted the half hour. I had everything planned! I parked on campus where I THOUGHT the bus that would take me to the medical center would pick me up. Got on the bus about 45 minutes ahead of schedule. I was thinking how impressed my new employers would be by my promptness. 15 minutes into the ride I realized I had gotten on the wrong bus! We were heading to the south campus, far away from the medical center! This was 20+ years ago so obviously there were no cell phones yet so I had no means to call my team to let them know what had happened. I finally got there but I was more than a half hour late. On my very first day! I was mortified to say the least but fortunately my bosses were compassionate enough to take pity on me. In all the years I've worked since then I could count on my one hand how many times I've been late. My point in all of this is sometimes shit happens. Maybe this guy is mortified, maybe not. I'd give him one more try and then follow your gut. However keep in mind, "dupe me once, shame on you. Dupe me twice, shame on me."

and you do not need to be depressed because you are not emotionally involved with him yet so its a blessing to find out he is weird before you bond! I have never ever been with a man who cancelled a date ever! If a man likes you nothing stops him...so do not trust this excuse. Even my big dumb mega Narc exBF never cancelled a date and he cares about no one's feelings. Only valid excuse is a death of someone in the family! BEWARE this one... Think about yourself - I would only cancel a date if I DID NOT WANT TO GO.

You'll know more when he calls, and he better! Lol Keep those eyes and ears open, hon! Stuff comes up so who knows, but you know fool me once, shame on you...you know the rest I'm sure. He may have e-mailed not wanting to disrupt your time with your mom, so that would be sweet. You'll get a better feel when he calls. Use your gut. Hopefully he apologizes and sets up another date. If he sounds flaky, bail. Lol. But canceling a first date is a red flag, but when kids are involved, stuff happens. My exbf (not a N) had a little girl, and we often had to work around his ex-wife's flaky schedule. Hugs! Have a relaxing night! :)

But not a reason to get depressed. It was supposed to be your first date. So how can you take it personally if he does not even know you? My feeling is you exagerate here a bit. However red flag here, I agree with Juliamarie. Maybe the guy is not well-organized, maybe not that available? Hmm... At the same time, maybe his son really had an issue... Red flag, pay a double attention.

I had a crazy day. I have an upstairs apt. and after my kids moved out, I kinda offered it to a maternity home in case a mom and baby needed a place. This girl called me Thursday. She was trying to get away from an alcoholic husband with her 6 month old. I told her I needed to get a stove, refrig and a mattress/boxspring and it woul be ready. She asked about a deposit and I said, nah, it's ok. So this morning I got up ad got all this stuff for the apt. My son helped me move stuff in. I called the girl to see if she needed a crib set up and she said oh she forgot to call and tell me she had already found another apt. This shit is exactly why I am moving--this place is incredibly backward and entitled. Anyway, I read your post about dating and I decided to send a couple of flirts on a dating site tonite. I am so desperate for normal--or anything not HIM. The idea of an awkward dinner is exactly what I need. No love, no sex, no soulmates! Just someone to pay for dinner.

I know its dissappointing, but there will be other dates. I actually went on my first date last week and it was very disappointing.. Sooooo... We've got to take it easy on ourselves and give things time. Every situation/opportunity may not pan out. I'm sure his reason was valid, and I'm sure he will follow up with a call. If he doesn't, I wouldn't take it personally. Maybe you should feel lucky that you found out earlier than later, what kind of person he is. I wish you the best Hugs Monique

Maybe he's a great guy with a legit excuse. But all of us on here are hyper sensitive to anything remotely weird with a new guy. Just see what he has to say. Maybe it's nothing....it could be that he has a great excuse. It could be that he's not someone you want to be associated with at this point in your recovery. Don't let him make you feel bad. I was the dating queen in my 20s...and I encountered this on a regular basis. I always told myself...well, he doesn't even know me yet so I'm not going to take it personally. Sometimes I heard from them...sometimes not so much. It's not about YOU. It's about whatever crap he's got going on right now. Red alert. Take it slow.

What could it be? Emergency late night homework project, the difficult one for which they do get about 2 weeks to finish, due tomorrow and tomorrow is Sunday? :)) It is probably something that can wait until tomorrow then....Next time ask what is it.

you know what I found is the best thing to do when it comes to dating is have ZERO EXPECTATIONS, i am not trying to be a downer but realistic, as one who has been dating or trying to for at least 6 months or so my expectations are nil, in that way you will not be disappointed.You have to kiss so many frogs until you may get lucky and find the prince.Try not feel too bad, just get on with your life..