Finally got No Contact.

I haven't been on here for quite some time. I've mainly been trying to work on myself and sort through mt emotions. Honestly, I refuse to label my ex as a narcissist, after all those are just labels that describe a series of behaviors. I will say however that he is a veru disturbed person that suffers from many psychological issues. For a long time I remained in denial about who he really was. I refused to accept that me staying in contact with him would forever be a neverending cycle of misery. In the 6 years I have known him I have endured endless pain and heartache. The worst thing about this pain that is suffered at the hands of these people is they never acknowledge any of the pain they've caused you. Matter fact my ex would constantly blame me for all of his shortcomings and misfortunes in his life even if I had nothing to do with them. So for a long time I made excuses to remain in contact with him. I would tell people that it was impossible for me to go "no contact" with him because we had kids. This was just an excuse. I have to set my boundaries and I cannot allow anyone to come in and out of mine and my kids life at their leisure. He called all the shots. He left me when he was ready, he came back to me when he was ready. I was his doormat and he knew I would always be there waiting for him. Even to the point that it's been about a month and a half since he broke up with me. Since then he's been in relationships with two different women. The current one is his second, since the breakup. Yet he had no problem calling and askinf me for money constantly. Thankfully i've grown a backbone and refused to give him anything. Then had the nerve to tell me that he loved me and that he wanted his family (meaning my kids and i) regardless of who he was with. Basically meaning he can screw whomever he wants but were just supposed to be here waiting. The last straw that made me cut ties was when he called me out of nowhere telling me I needed to realize he was my kids father. Which he said meant that if he asked me for money, food, or help I needed to do it. I realized that I am meant for so much more than this.