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#1 Nov 1 - 12PM
kiwi10
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fierflie's soap opera

Well, he moved in last night.
Apparently, he locked his key in his new office, so he didn;t have his wallet or whatever... the dude actually asked me for money.
Luckily, he stayed out until midnight last night, came home reeking of pot and carrying his drum and his stool. I was so repulsed I had trouble sleeping.

Nov 2 - 10PM
kiwi10
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my daily report

just wanted to check in and tell everyone i was ok and that i only had to talk to him for two seconds today to ask him to please try to turn lights off when leaving a room and he said 'yes, i will try to be better.' thats all folks for november 2, day of the dead.
Nov 3 - 5PM (Reply to #17)
Briseis
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In your shoes I'd just turn

In your shoes I'd just turn off the light myself if it bothered me, you know? I'd seek to have NO contact with him unless he was bleeding to death or on fire. Even then, I'd have to think through the consequences of saving him . . . :P
Nov 3 - 6PM (Reply to #18)
kiwi10
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i did for the first few days

but i'm at school until all hours and he leave sthem on when he leaves the house. and since the deal is that he pays the mortgage and i pay the utilities, it needed to be said :(
Nov 1 - 10PM
kiwi10
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pot and sweetness

pot makes him calmer though. He's less scary on pot. I dont care if he smokes it. why do you say that susan? was yours mean when he got high? thats unusual. brieses, thank you. it's been odd interacting with him this way, sitting at the table and him joining me and having a civil conversation. it's crazy how this person could have been so cruel to me.
Nov 2 - 1AM (Reply to #14)
Briseis
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It should be "odd". You are

It should be "odd". You are sitting across the table from a psychopath you beat you senseless. Having a normal conversation. It's called Twilight Zone. It is not good for your head.
Nov 2 - 10AM (Reply to #15)
kiwi10
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brieses

i hope it's not going to make me crazier. so far its been ok. I'll post more tonight
Nov 1 - 9PM
Susan32
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Protect yourself!

A psychopath combined with pot is a bad combination. You need to protect yourself and have an exit strategy. You have to be able to leave at any time and be prepared. Your safety COMES FIRST.
Nov 1 - 9PM
kiwi10
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his dog

is hungry and thirsty and there is no food in sight. damn it
Nov 1 - 4PM
kiwi10
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you guys are so sweet

to worry about me. I promise I'm ok!! i will post daily if i can. I love yall so much.
Nov 1 - 9PM (Reply to #10)
Briseis
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It's not sweetness that makes us worry :P

It's FEAR. But you're right, we do care an awful lot about you. Stay smart, don't let the denial creep in and block your vision. The moment you start to wonder if he was really THAT bad, you need to get on this board, or call someone.
Nov 1 - 4PM
kiwi10
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you guys are so sweet

to worry about me. I promise I'm ok!! i will post daily if i can. I love yall so much.
Nov 1 - 3PM
jaycee
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fierflie

Oh please be safe, please listen to all the people here. Make sure close friends and family members know he is capable of anything. keep that gun loaded and close by, and dont blink, just shoot if you are in danger, shoot first, explain later, everything he has done, is documented here on this site, so you will be protected from legal issues.......be safe, im praying for you........Jaycee

Jaycee

Nov 1 - 2PM
Briseis
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Keep your cellphone charged

Keep your cellphone charged and at hand at all times. Considering that you are "crushing" on another guy, a potentially good one, ask yourself if this is the kind of situation you'd want him to know about. Perhaps "no contact" is not possible now . . . but "no reaction" IS possible. This is very dangerous . . . no one here has forgotten that or have lulled ourselves into a false sense of security on your part. I know that YOU have changed, gotten much stronger, probably in ways that you don't even know about :) HOWEVER: Fierflie, he is a psychopath. Period. He hasn't changed, and won't change, and CAN'T change. He is the same man who hopes to molest little girls, the same man who beat you for hours with a belt and never saw a thing wrong with it. He is back in your house.
Nov 1 - 1PM
betty2020
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Do you still have a plan B?

Do you still have a plan B? Do you have a place to move to when this comes down and you realize that this will not work fierfly? only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 1 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
kiwi10
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Yes, I have places i can go

Yes, I have places i can go Betty :) I miss talking to you. How have you been? Yup, there is alock on my door, don't worry. And a gun under my bed. Love you guys for caring.
Nov 1 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
betty2020
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Im good luv. Please inform

Im good luv. Please inform the person you may need to escape to that this is a possibility and could come down at a moments notice. Just double check with them and keep them posted on what is happening so there are no issues with you going there. Also, it would be wise to keep your things, clothes, personal items close at hand and ready to take if you need to make a fast escape out of there. Just be ready and prepared. Miss you too. Lets talk soon. :):) only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 1 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
blueeyes
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Soap opera

Honey, a gun under your bed? Does he know it's there? I am afraid for you as I was for my kids. A pschopath is unpredictable. It's hell.
Nov 1 - 1PM
wholeagain
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Do you...

have a lock on your bedroom door?