Feeling REALLY sad

I know snowflake, it is unbelievable how much it hurts. I still feel perplexed by how I could be SO deeply affected by my ex, who I dont even respect as a person. Its just a huge mindfuck..they manipulate you until you're dependent on them for happiness and then they take it away from you and leave you feeling utterly confused and vulnerable and empty. We all know what you're going through. Stay strong and keep posting here! You're doing great xo

Sending you LOTS of hugs Snowflake, and I'm so proud of you--we're totally in this together! Keep us posted...

Snowflake the pain is deep and the pain is real it hurts like hell but sparrow is right first it gets worse then it will get better trust me it will. These are the feelings we first must go through to fully overcome what has happened to us. We must recognize the wrong doing, accept it, and yes "feel it"..... this part suck but yes we must feel it.... let it out. And then we will overcome it our head will start to become more clear and the decision we have made to stay no contact and stay out of this toxic relationship is a far better outcome than what the out come could ever be if we were to stay. Stay strong with TIME, KNOWLEDGE,AND SUPPORT, we will all get through it. Hang in there Snowflake..... you deserve more than what this man can ever give you! you deserve a life that is your own..... its time to take your life back, to heal your heart, mind and soul. The hard part is there is a pile off poop in front of us and the only way to get to the other side is to walk straight through it, there's no short cuts but once we get through it we never have to turn back. Stay strong Snowflake

Snow, it does hurt, and will for some time. The physical pain you are experiencing is no different than someone withdrawing from heroin. Honestly. It will get better, but it gets worse first. I'm sorry to say that, but it's the truth. Take one day at a time, that's all you can do. Read, educate yourself on what you are dealing with. He is the worst type of narc, the predator. They are horrible and are driven to destroy. Don't let him win. Don't expect things to happen over night. Stay close to the forum. Reach out as often as you need to. And most importantly, stay NC! Hugs to you my friend.

Let's hope we never see them again though this seems a difficult prospect early on - seeing them caused more pain and destruction than most of us have ever encountered in our lives. Who would want to continue on with so much pain? Who would want to be with someone that actually despises us for choosing them? They live in a prison of their own construction - diseased and tormented beings. Who would stay? Who would wish to return? We can leave, live, breathe, change and ultimately be free. Snowflake - take back your life - choose freedom. There are so many here to listen and help - you can do this.

The first day is the hardest, and if you can get through one you can get through another, then maybe a third. Eventually days will turn into weeks and after the first month you'll feel the anger and no longer want him back. It takes time but Its the best thing to happen to you, he screwed you over. Now you get a chance to get your life back. Take care of yourself. Journalling REALLY helped me. Please don't read his old texts or look at pictures at least for first 2 weeks. And please fill your life with as many activities as you can A therapist once told me: the 3rd day, 3rd week, and 3rd month are hardest so with every milestone, celebrate.......x

The first day is the hardest, and if you can get through one you can get through another, then maybe a third. Eventually days will turn into weeks and after the first month you'll feel the anger and no longer want him back. It takes time but Its the best thing to happen to you, he screwed you over. Now you get a chance to get your life back. Take care of yourself. Journalling REALLY helped me. Please don't read his old texts or look at pictures at least for first 2 weeks. And please fill your life with as many activities as you can A therapist once told me: the 3rd day, 3rd week, and 3rd month are hardest so with every milestone, celebrate.......x