Fed up and tired
Fed up and tired
It’s been a long holiday weekend for me. I’m tired, depressed, irritated and just fed up. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I don’t want to deal with it anymore. It scares me because I know he’s never gonna leave me alone even when I have NC with him and I don’t know that I’m ever gonna get over my feelings for a psycho.
I broke NC yesterday. He sent me a text that said his Daddy (which I dearly love) had almost died over the weekend and was in the hospital. Then he called and I answered it because I was worried about his dad. I know I shouldn’t have but I don’t know how to be so cold and heartless. I wish I could be like a Narc sometimes where nothing mattered except myself.
While I was with the Narc both of my parents were very sick. Narc Boy bitched and whined constantly that I didn’t have time for him because I was always taking care of my parents. When he called yesterday he told me about his dad and then started apologizing for how he treated me when my parents were so sick. He told me he was 100 percent wrong and I was the best woman in the world and I was doing right by my parents and he was so sorry for how he treated me. I didn’t say anything. I just listened to him spew. He told me he would always love me and I was the most amazing women in the world blah blah blah. I still didn’t respond. He never said he wanted to fix things or that he wanted us to work on things just that he was so wrong and he was so sorry. I told him I hoped his Dad got better and hung up.
After I hung up I thought about it for awhile. This is so cold but it’s true. I know him and I knew he was calling everybody and using this story as poor pitiful me.........look what’s happening in my life..........look how pitiful I am.........feel sorry for me please. He’s called every supply he’s ever had since 5th grade and told them this story. It’s how he does things.
Reality is hard to deal with and reality has been slapping me around all weekend. Maybe it’s a good thing that I’m beginning to see things but it’s so painful that I can’t function. The reality that his Dad almost died Saturday and he didn’t bother to call and tell me until yesterday shows that I don’t matter much anymore. The fact that he poured his heart out about how sorry he was and how wrong he was and how much he loves me but didn’t say a word about working things out shows me that he is happy with the new GF but he needed to say those things to me to make himself not look like the horrible bad guy anymore. All he did was release himself for the horrible things he did and said while my parents were sick. Now in his mind he’s free and clear. He’s cleaned up his mess so he’s not the horrible cruel soulless person I kept telling him he was.
I am depressed. I wish I could go back to raging and being pissed but now I’m depressed. I went to bed at 7:00 last night so I didn’t have to think anymore. I couldn’t even read much on the forums yesterday because it only made things worse instead of better. It depresses me so bad to see so many people going through the same pain I’m going through. I’m on over-load with all of this. I honestly do not want that life back with him. I have thought about it and wondered if he had poured his heart out to me and apologized and then wanted to work things out would I have said YES? I honestly don’t think so. While he was telling me the story about his Dad I could pick out the exaggerations and lies in the story. My eyes are that wide open now. It’s just the reality of it all is crashing down on me. I don’t have blinders on anymore and I think that is what is getting to me. I see him a lot more clearly now and I can’t lie to myself anymore about how he feels and who he is. Lying to ourselves makes things easier. When you can make them human in your mind and make excuses for their behavior then it’s not so hard.
Sorry for rambling. It does make me feel better to get it all out. I am so thankful that I have all of you to tell this stuff to and you understand it. My family and friends look at me like I have 12 heads when I bring his name up so I don’t talk about any of this to them anymore. They don’t understand the craziness at all!
I want this to be done. I want to be normal again. I’m so tired of being depressed and hurting.
Sara
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Sara
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Ok so no more contact you are
addicted to fixing...
narcissizednomore
SOI
really
narcissizednomore
Exactly! And from everything
Sick of it, that's exactly
Everything I have read says
Yeah, you and him go back a
Aww thank you! I guess I have
SOI
I dont know about the wisdom
sick and tired of feeling/being sick and tired
stay~strong
Disillusioned
I think my family and friends
No one who hasn't been
That's right. Nobody
Ex