Father's Day

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#1 Jun 21 - 7PM
malloryforest
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Father's Day

This is a very interesting day for those of us who have children with our ex Ns. My sons had been talking about father's day. For them, I felt like I had to get a card for them to decorate to give to their dad.

How many of you stood before the row of cards and could not find one single card to give them? "You are the best dad in the whole world," just doesn't work. "Thanks for always being there for me," also doesn't work. I found myself sitting in the aisle laughing. My sisters and I used to have this same issue when buying cards for our own father. I would have never thought I would be tackling the same problem with my kid's father.

Got home with no cards. Had the boys make their own.

Kept my boundaries up this whole weekend with STBXNH in town. It went well. I wore my tephlon armor. Now I have four more weeks to breath before he returns.

Jun 22 - 1AM
Suzie (not verified)
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pig on fathers day

My kids made that jerk a fathers day card. He left it here. Things like that mean nothing to him at all. I stopped buying cards for him years ago because I would give it to him and he would just set it down and never open it. No...thank you or anything. He is such a pig. I wasn't there when the kids gave him the card. I left and let my mom deal with him. She seems to like him so much. She actually hugged him the other day when he was leaving. He still attends the weight meeting group we go to and he helps her get her walker in and out of the car. Everyone there thinks he is great. Last night I couldn't hardly sleep and when I finally did, I had a nightmare about him. I dreampt that he brought some strange girl to the meeting with him and that I had a panic attack and couldn't breathe. All the women in there followed me to the bathroom and kept asking if I was ok. He stayed in the room and was rocking back and forth in his chair smilling. I felt sick all night. I hate fathersday. He left me one time on fathersday a long time ago. He cheated on me with an old girlfriend during that time. I didn't find out until after we were married. Now that girl is one of his friends on my space. He is such a pig. I called my dad. Of course he already had plans. I havn't spent a fathers day with my dad in years. Leah
Jun 21 - 9PM
Barbara (not verified)
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father's day

Did he take his laundry with him? LOL I took my kids to get the cards themselves. I couldn't stand looking at the cards - they were all so INAPPROPRIATE, as you said. They ended up getting funny/ sarcastic cards and he loved them. He's developed VERY deep wrinkles on his face (despite all his running and gym-going) like his dad. So I gave him wrinkle cream from the kids. He actually was profusely happy! Totally missed the joke. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 22 - 9PM (Reply to #3)
grossot
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How vein can you get! He

How vein can you get! He was probably actually excited about using the cream- he'll get to prep in front of the mirror longer, right? Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet; for everyone is fighting some kind of battle - anonymous- :o) nolongercontrolled
Jun 22 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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yes he probably was

probably! though, he wasn't as excited about my other gift. A pair of sleep pants with horse derrieres on them. I wonder why he didn't find that as funny as me... ROFLMAO ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 22 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Father

http://eqi.org/signs_of_abusive_fathers.htm