an example of how they do it

So I went on vacation last week to see family in NC. I posted on here a while back about it and how my STBXNH was giving me a hard time about it. I had told him I did not want our daughter to be go on vacation with him b/c he was going to be working with an autistic child who has terribly agressive behavior. I did not feel she would be aafe. There would be no one to watch my daughter. The only problem N expressed with me taking her on vacation was that he didn't want me taking her out of state. Well since I was going to allow him to do that very thing (minus the autistic child) he didn't have a very valid argument. We agreed over the phone more than a week before my scheduled vacation that I would keep daughter until his next scheduled visit on july 8 since he was unwilling to give up any of his vacation time. I was getting pumped about having this much needed time away with my daughter.

Wow! It was nice having nc from N for a week as I prepared for my time off work and getting ready to leave. Friday comes. We were leaving in 10 more hours. But as we all know N never give up so easy. At 430 that afternoon I received a certified letter. I was an idot and retrieved it. The letter from N outlined the ways in which he was "willing to consider" paying for half her plane ticket and how the family he was going with (the mother of which he is likely sleeping with and who testified for him in court lying under oath) was willing to watch my daughter while N worked with her son with autism. And best of all that if I let daughter go with him in NC wed thru sun. He would make up a day by letting me have her on aug 15 for a wedding that she is a flower girl in b/c shed be with him one of my days over vacation. The exact wording is 'I would be wiiling to give you back a day if you do this. Maybe Sarah's wedding would be a good day for you this.

See how the wording sounds like that of a saint? But does not make him accountable to anything while at the same time threatening me?!

So you'll be glad to know that I texted him from my mom's phone when we got ther to let him know daughter was fine and a contact number. He said ok and I hvnt heard a thing from him! She did not go with him! He really thought just b/c I sighned a cert letter I was agreeing to his terms! Thank God my daughter is safe. My lawyer said he just wants to make me look non-compliant in court.

Can you say NARC?