I've been NC for over a week now, I think. All the stuff I didn't get to while with him is on a massive to-do list, and I'm knocking it down and taking care of business. Making the financial plan to recover from him made me feel a lot better. He sent an email and asked for a favor in the subject line, and I just deleted it instead of even reading. Yup, having my time and money back sure is nice. I'm really excited about finally being able to afford school!
I gotta say, being further along in my healing (at two years post relationship), for me now it is closer to only 5% of my energy that I put toward my exN at all.
More like fleeting thoughts which if are in any way painful, I curse and dismiss them almost as fast as they cross my mind.
Channeling all that extra energy for positive and productive growth in myself is still a challenge - I waste a lot of time still not feeling in me strong motivations to always take action, but at least I'm enjoying that time instead of it being taken up with obsessing or caring about narc and what he did/does.
Love the positivity in this post Sparrow! We are all so much better than the narc could ever allow us to believe while under his control, since our beauty and strength was WAY too frightening for him to support.
Agreed............absolutely........we are all amazing, some on the forum don't believe that though.....they will eventually.......they need a bit of inspiration from time to time.
Smile
Definitely, but for those who are still rebuilding self-esteem, I'm using my 1/2 energy to just tell you that you are completely & utterly amazing...we may can't tell ourselves this right now, but why not shower each other with a Much Deserved Compliment today! Have a great day everyone........Cause You Are All Wonderful People! ~Bg~
My point exactly...........let's make a day for just "us". Anyone out there that is starting on their journey or has been on it for some time.......take today to think about your own wants, wants that do not include the narc......pick one thing about yourself that you would like to improve, and spend today planning on how to accomplish it. You will be amazed at how great of a feeling it is to "give" to someone who truly deserves it, "YOU".
right on!
Keep up the good work! NC
Birdie
I gotta say, being further
Journey on...
thank you that was a
Amen!
Hunter
I think we are all
Sparrow, COULD NOT AGREE MORE!
My point
That is an understatement