Empathy/Interest - or lack of....

How did this manifest itself in your case(s)..I have been thinking a lot about the stuff I put up with and realised that my ex never or rarely showed an interest in my life. He never asked anything about stuff I did (sometimes I'd make up crazy stuff to get a reaction, but it never worked), or I'd tell him about places I was going and he'd never remember (his memory was terrible). I took my girls on holiday abroad and he barely asked what we got up to, what the place was like..I remember leaving a silence on the phone sometimes to see if he would ask how I was...it rarely happened.

He also, never ever would ask for opinions, is this typical N behaviour do you think? He would never say, what do you think about me doing this?...do you think I am (such and such)? Which I think are the normal ways we all measure ourselves and our behaviour or actions..but perhaps I am wrong. I remember his mum telling me once that he told her he was going to do something which she advised against and he sent her an email in capitals "NO ONE CAN STOP ME". She laughed, I didn't.