Emotional Rape

Let me see if I understand this accurately and with some ex
examples. Exploitation of another persons higher emotions e.g. love then used for a hidden agenda that another person did not consent to is emotional rape.What about generosity, willingness to do or give something for another person?

What if a spouse exploits his spouse to purchase a car he wants.He shops for it, he wants to buy it, insists they buy it. She does not want it and if any car is purchased she wants a much cheaper vehicle..half as much. She relents for it apparently is a huge deal for him to buy the expensive car. "Ok, honey...if you want this car so badly go ahead and buy it." Then he tells people his spouse "demanded it", she'll only have the "most expensive, the best". Then he escalates she is a "demanding bitch"...he never wanted the car! (then why the hell did he call and have her go 5x to the dealership??)

When there is a verbal agreement, a discussion e.g. the above, a rapist (?) verbalizes understanding you want to replace an old car given to a child..not spend alot of money...there is a verbal contract...agreement you are choosing to agree the spouse buy the care he wants. Then is it exploiting you to take your generosity or willing decision for another's pleasure to then be bad mouthed as a "demanding bitch?" Followed by the man declaring "he did not want the car?"

What if someone engages you knowing you are capable, generous under the guise of needing help and then he/she tells people you want to control them..force things on them...why they wanted "nothing" after telling you a long list of what they wanted? Isn't that exploitation and betrayal?