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#1 May 16 - 9PM
ifinallygotit
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The dog

I stumbled across the most adorable picture of his dog when he was a just a puppy with his first chew stick...it stopped me cold because I miss the dog so much. I have not seen him or the dog in 10 months. The dog was also left behind here with someone but he won't let me see him. I helped raise the dog and we bonded...
Then I went to to the store today and the butcher asked me how is the dog! I almost burst out crying! Two big reminders in one day.
I wanted to forward the cute puppy pic to EX N and beg him to let me see the dog here but he has been ignoring my last few attempts to communicate.
Why does he have to control me seeing the dog? he always made it clear it was "his" dog.
The dog would be so happy to see me - I am sure the dog misses both of us.
Do you think I have to let go of the dog completely too? it still hurts alot...never said goodbye to either.

May 17 - 8AM
peace11
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Double whammy.

I hate to say this but you have to let them BOTH go. :/
May 17 - 8AM
Bitter-sweet
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dogs

I agree with Hunter. Can you get a dog of your own? I am not lonely in the sense that I live with my family- husband (who suffers from depression and is on constant medication) and three sons (one at uni at the moment). All my boys are great but they are pretty independent now. I have a dog and she is very important to me. Whether I've been out for five minutes or five hours she always greets me like a long lost friend. She knows my moods inside out and will come and lay her head and paws on me if I am down or just curl up quietly beside me. If I dance with joy, she runs to get a toy and join in. I walk her daily and she runs companionably beside me. It's often been said that dogs provide a therapy all of their own. You are low at the moment but seeing the Ns dog would mean contact with him... and more pain. Having your own dog will provide you with a new focus and bring you some comfort.
May 17 - 8AM
Hunter
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The Dog

Jesus, these dudes are so "Fucked Up" First let me say I love dogs! Now, get your own dog! Mine had a cute dog who loved me too! It pissed him off that the dog,his friends ,were liking me. He would have to share the spotlight, yep,even with a dog! Control, my dear ,get it! EveryThing associated with this Assclown you must let it go! They hold things over your head so you can beg like the" dog"! As for Hunter, I'm Top Dog, screw him! Hunter
May 17 - 12AM
ifinallygotit
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Before he D and D'd me

When he first moved and was still talking to me pretending he had not broken up with me i begged to see the dog. He said "no you will have to wait". i asked why and he said "because I said so". At that time I thought we'd be seeing each other soon in his new city and that ina few months he would come here to visit me and I would see the dog then. The dog lives with his relatives who probably take good care of it. I think he wants to keep me away from his sister more than the dog. When I broke contact in march we discussed the dog and he was kind and soft hearted about him - there is just no sense to anything. I even offered last summer to pick up the dog and drive half way across the country so he could see me and the dog. he said he did not have gas money to take a long drive to meet me, which was true. he had just started a job and was broke. he has no cash but he has millions in his retirement because he used to be rich for 20 years. so he lives poor now while his kids need him and will retire rich when they are grown. sorry for venting but I miss the dog and I will always miss the dog, the real dog :) !
May 17 - 12AM
beamoflight
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Hi

I could be wrong but I think it's about the control-- not the dog. hope you feel better about the dog soon.
May 16 - 9PM
TNR1
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Why does he have to control me seeing the dog?

Because he can. Hate to say it, but it is probably best to let the dog go....otherwise, the N will use it against you. Remember that these are sick, sick men who are only interested in themselves.
May 16 - 10PM (Reply to #2)
M
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agreed

It's about control. Mine sued me for the dog when I refused to set up a "visistaion/custody" arrangement. find another dog from the pound to love....