Does this sound like a narcissist?

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#1 Oct 13 - 10PM
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Does this sound like a narcissist?

Hello everybody, I've come here looking for info (if possible).

I have been seeing a man for the past 15 months. He displays odd behavior but I am not sure if it would fall under the term narcissistic or not.

He is fiercely competitive with me.

He never compliments me, unless it's to say something like "nice arse". If I'm successful at something, do something well etc, I get nothing.

He is unsupportive when something in my life goes wrong. This week something pretty awful happened to me. He was texting me for updates, but no "I'm sorry, here if you need me" etc. I was just getting a text reading "update?"

He blows hot and cold all the time. He's been over me like a rash lately, but last weekend pulled back & just stopped talking. When I asked him what was going on, he ended it. He has finished things with me about 4 times now.

He stalks me. Last time he ended it, he knew where I'd be the next day, and deliberately drove past. He also follows me around to a sport I play (he also plays, and has decided to play at the same time). Even a girlfriend has commented on his bizarre behavior around me. He then proceeded to email me with his critique of my skills (I'm okay apparently, but need to work on XYZ".

Other people have commented on his strange behavior in general. Most people either say that he's weird or he's rude. I don't think he actually sets out to be rude, he just suffers from foot in mouth disease. He doesn't think before he makes comments about people (such as their appearance).

The one time I tried to end it, he sulked around. When he saw me in public he stormed off, got in his car & you could literally hear the tyres screeching. Yet when he ended things with me the last time, when he saw me, he commented on how uncomfortable I looked (I was devastated), and asked me why.

It seems just as I begin to start feeling better about him rejecting me, his radar pings & he comes back. He is very closely tied to my private life, so it is fairly necessary to see him.

Do you think the above description fits a narcissist, or is he just a selfish and uncaring pig?

Oct 17 - 12PM
Hunter
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"maybe I should just leave "

Oct 17 - 9AM
neverlookback
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or is he just a selfish and uncaring pig?

Oct 17 - 3AM
no more an echo
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pathological or porcine?

Oct 17 - 10AM (Reply to #37)
Striped
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Sorry No More An Echo, I did

Oct 17 - 10AM (Reply to #38)
spinning
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Striped, let's not focus too much

spinning

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #41)
Striped
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"The above is an easy one

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #42)
Used
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It's so easy sitting outside

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #45)
spinning
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Yes, striped, there is/was

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Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #43)
Striped
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I'm sorry, I had no intention

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #44)
spinning
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Okay, Striped, here we go...

spinning

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #40)
Used
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on a diagnosis and just on

Oct 17 - 10AM (Reply to #39)
Hunter
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Spinning

Oct 16 - 10PM
Striped
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Gosh I miss him. This is so

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #35)
Done sourcing
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Good mask, bad mask.... It's

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #32)
Used
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striped

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #33)
Striped
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I can't do NC, I can (and am)

Oct 17 - 11AM (Reply to #34)
Used
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you can still do NC just stop

Oct 17 - 9AM (Reply to #31)
neverlookback
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so you are saying

Oct 17 - 12AM (Reply to #30)
talktothehand
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Striped

Oct 14 - 4PM
onwithmylife
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striped

Oct 14 - 12PM
brinamarie
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Sounds classic Narc to me. I

Oct 14 - 12PM (Reply to #21)
Striped
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I feel so much better today.

Oct 15 - 5AM (Reply to #24)
talktothehand
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Things

Oct 15 - 10AM (Reply to #25)
Striped
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He's not so bad materially.

Oct 15 - 11AM (Reply to #26)
talktothehand
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NC

Oct 15 - 11AM (Reply to #27)
Striped
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It's awful, I can't escape

Oct 14 - 12PM (Reply to #22)
brinamarie
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Youll find more in reading

Oct 14 - 12PM (Reply to #23)
Striped
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That's interesting to hear.

Oct 14 - 10AM
Striped
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Thank you all so much. I

Oct 14 - 2AM
talktothehand
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Striped