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To dob or not to dob?

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#1 Jul 6 - 2AM
Puzzle
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To dob or not to dob?

I was leaving work the other day, my last week at the Narcs school. I have been working there since January off and on. We brokeup in May.

There were a number of contracts offered to me, and since I have found that they have offered them to someone else. I know they have caught wind that the Narc and I are no longer together, but really why should it matter to them?

Anyway I started to get mad as I was leaving work the other day, I figure I put in the hard yards, take the shit classes, do the right thing and in a weeks time I will be jobless and freaking out about work for next term.

The Narc on the other hand was happily sipping a drink and enjoying the staff party, I realise his life is still intact and mine seems to have fallen to shit, no thanks to him.

He deals drugs, and smokes about 5 bongs a day, and yet he is a school counsellor with a clean record.
Here's me jobless, (I don't want to toot my own horn, but a good teacher) always go above and beyond and this low life stoner has a job and in a weeks time I won't.

How is that justice?

I was seriously considering dobbing him in for his drug habbit....Next time I turn around he will be made Principal and he is only 26 years old.

I feel like why should he get away with it when other teachers are jobless and do the right thing?? It isn't fair on the kids he is meant to be a role model for. Why should he get away with everything and earn $80,000 a year, be respected in his position when he is scum?

Do I want to go there? I just feel like everything will always work out for him no matter what he does. Nothing sticks to him, and he has come out of this with a job, a house, a nice car and I am living with my parents and jobless.

It just isn't fair. Why do they always do the wrong thing and end up at the top. I always do the right thing, work hard, don't do anything illegal and get nowhere.

Where is the justice?

Jul 6 - 10AM
Susan32
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Time: The Narc's Worst Enemy

According to the Bible, death is the last enemy. But I think with Narcs, time is the last enemy. Ns/Ps can get away with bad behavior for only so long. A year after the final D&D, the ex-Psych prof's parents MOVED IN WITH HIM. He liked being in New Mexico, far from his parents in New England... he felt he could do what he wanted. He could have an off-campus class centered on drinking wine, far from parental supervision. My former Narc boss had been where he was for 8 years;he had terrorized numerous employees, pitted them against each other... but less than a year after I left, he was fired. Once I was out of the picture, he was there for only 8 months. Time catches up with Ns/Ps. After I left, the ex-P had to deal with being a husband&father (knowing how much he hated marriage&children-because they represent ultimate responsibilities), and his parents living with him. Yeah, life was SO MUCH BETTER for him after I left. It wasn't my idea to get his girlfriend pregnant&for his parents to move in. Believe me, I WANTED revenge-but I'm not that powerful!!!
Jul 6 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
peacelily76
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Time an enemy

I love this! You are right - karma deals out what is next in life in glorious ways. Exactly the same has happened to my narc ex. As soon as I walked out the door he was back online, trawling through girls on crap dating sites, literally blanket emailing girls. I know this because I logged on to an account of his and found the evidence - idiot! Within two months, maybe less of meeting his new TARGET, she was pregnant! He had to rent out his house, move away to a backwater town where nothing happens, go back to a job he gave up years ago because it exhausted him and he is SURROUNDED by her family who, I have to say, look either very supportive of her or very claustrophobic for him! I couldn't have wished for better. Add to this, the poor girl has put on large amounts of weight and he hates it! He also has to live with her two children from a previous marriage who will soon by moody teenagers who will HATE him! I love life!!
Jul 6 - 3AM
Journey
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It isn't fair, it seldom is

It isn't fair, it seldom is when we see what the narcs get away with and especially after what they take from us (and anyone else who is useful to them). I personally would be very hesitant to dob him, I just don't see anything good coming to you from it and being responsible for outing him at work could cost you more than you might gain. Look at all of the members here that can't get away from their narcs because of their jobs and perhaps try to see it from a different perspective. This is your chance to escape him for good, a clean start and narc-free. It is tough for you right now with an uncertain future (I totally relate to that), but at least you will not have to continue to see him every day and hopefully you will find a position much better for you at a new school in the fall. My 2 cents. Journey on...

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