Do you ever wonder

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#1 May 12 - 10AM

neverlookback

Do you ever wonder

With all their various affairs and relationships if they play the SAME game with each of their victims? And to even go further wonder if they also perform sexually in the same way? Wonder if they say the SAME EXACT LINES to each and every one of them? I often wondered how many others he would call up and say the same sick perverted garbage to????
I brought this up because Candy saw that her X was trying to recycle TWO of his past victims at the same time, I bet they get a real sick kick from juggling all these women and seeing which one responds to what, and how they respond and which of them is a bigger impending sucker and fool?

Which brings me to another thought since mine was so into GROUP CRAP I wonder how many times the SICK bastard had sex with me just after he was with someone else, hours before? I remember one time he was with me and his GF called, (or so he said it was) and as he was talking to her his hands were down my jeans geez wonder how many times as I was talking to him he was screwing someone else? SUCH UTTER betrayal and deception that he GOT OFF on, MOST people would have left the room to talk he was just smiling thinking it was cute and funny as he was all over me, NO CONSCIENCE, NO REMORSE and NO feelings at all for the other person if it was his GF it showed me how much he truly loved her - he played us both that night and it was just a funny sick game to him - geez wish I were his GF (NOT)

#2 May 15 - 3PM

sparky2009

that is too weird mine sang

that is too weird mine sang me that country song every morning ! They are so creepy I swear they are the same person every last one of them ...

#3 May 15 - 1PM

dudette

But the funnier thing was

that I used to call him honey... and he said, "no-one has ever called me honey".... Really? cos I met another OW and she calls everyone honey!!!so that figures.... Bloody idiot.....

#4 May 15 - 9AM

Steph

holy crap

laughing at the "good morning beautiful" and how many got that....Myself included. That was on of the things I missed...the daily "Good Morning Beautiful" either in person, phone, or text. Everyday. lol. guess it's a pretty common one lol

#5 May 14 - 4PM

WiserNow30

The "morning beautiful" is

The "morning beautiful" is textbook. I think you all are talking about my ex N JCR.

#6 May 15 - 1PM (Reply to #17)

dudette

ah now you see

I got good morning gorgeous instead..... 8.30am, every morning for two years....really pavlovian..... textbook.....

#7 May 12 - 1PM

Smitten Kitten (not verified)

Yes, I know he uses some of the exact same lines

When he was flaunting the new GF on FB before I blocked him, he was calling her the same pet names he used with me. I've also noticed that he did and said the same things others have written about on the board here. Texting me every morning or leaving a voice mail that said, "Good morning Gorgeous," "Good morning Beautiful," or "Good morning Sweetie." That must be straight out of the Narc handbook too. He also likes to post "love" songs for women. He did it with the previous one, with me, and now the new one. At first I felt so special and thought it was the most romantic thing ever. I mean songs with very meaningful lyrics that convinced me how much I meant to him. Now I just think how lazy for him to be able to do that and have it work for him so well. He doesn't have to come up with anything original. Unfortunately, I now have a ton of songs I can't listen to anymore because he's ruined them for me. As for sexually, we were having a discussion one time about how we were together sexually. I told him I was different with him than I was with my husband, that I responded to him differently and that my husband would be truly shocked if he only knew how different I was in bed with the Narc than with him. It's like I was two different women. Obviously there are going to be some similarities, but the passion I had with the N is completely absent with my husband, plus the deterioration of our relationship has impacted every aspect of that. The N said he is the same as far as technique and what he does, that he doesn't know any other way to be with a woman, but how much he enjoys it is not the same with each one. He also said though, that every woman is different and he learns their body and what pleases them, and what works for one may not work for another.

#8 May 12 - 2PM (Reply to #14)

mynewlife2011

too much credit given!!

Think you may be giving him too much credit here.. Like he was being honest with you when he said he figures out what each woman wants/works for her?? NOT Like HE was the reason you were good in bed? NOT Like HE has the ability to be original? NOT Get where I am going here? Totally normal after the relationship with the N. is over to doubt yourself and your identity. It's how they break us down with their pathological lies, D & D, and verbal weaponry. Let me tell you something, YOU are good in bed because you are good in bed!!! You thought you could trust him, so that made you a little more "free" sexually with him. Good to know you have it in you. Now, your current husband may not be sexually compatible with you. But if you do have trust with your current husband, I would be inclined to try a sexual weekend getaway with him and plan to bring some interesting creative things with you to share with him (such as a blindfold, bodypaint, toys, etc.) Now get to it girl..you have a life to live! Go find out if your husband has it in him, and then you will know what to do next. Stop giving the stupid dummy N. too much credit and giving your power away to that anus!!! HUGS

#9 May 12 - 3PM (Reply to #15)

Smitten Kitten (not verified)

Mynewlife2011

No, I didn't mean that HE was the reason the sex was good between us or that HE had the ability to be original. I realize the sex was good because of what I bring to the table and not him (and I think he does too), as well as the chemistry between us (at least on my part). Yes, I was able to be free with him because of my feelings for him. I realize now it was all part of his manipulation the moment he started seducing me. He knew exactly what to say and do to get me to respond because he's a predator and he studied me. I guess the point I was trying to make is that while HE is the same with all women because he doesn't know any other way to be, I am not the same with all men, based on what they bring out in me. Even before I was married, I don't think I would ever say that I was the same with every partner. For that matter, each of my friendships is different too. While I'm still the same person, the dynamics in every relationship are going to be different. As far as my husband goes, we have been married almost 22 years and are in a really bad place in our marriage. It wasn't always like this and we were sexually compatible in the beginning, but right now we have ZERO chemistry and the LAST thing I want to do is have a sexual weekend with him. It's reached the point that I cringe when he touches me (that's sad to say, I know) and the last few attempts at sex were disastrous, where I just wanted to get through it. I don't respond to him AT ALL and I know it's because of my feelings for him and how they've changed. I don't even feel comfortable with him seeing me naked at this point and try to avoid it happening at all costs. In fact, I DREAD weekends when he's home all the time and I feel pressured for sex. I don't have to worry about that during the week because he's too tired. I actually look forward to Mondays when he goes back to work and is gone all day. You know your life is screwed up when you like Mondays more than Fridays. Things were going down hill before the N entered my life, and is a big part of why I was receptive to him in the first place.

#10 May 12 - 12PM

momoya

Back up Supply

I think it must stem from paranoia that supply sources will dry up. The N's are hard on everyone - but the worst on the wife for sure, I think. EXN I found out had used various different lies that he felt would work, so he still lied to us all and still D&D and disappeared. He never made any reappearances or hoovering attempts. He basically burned up his supply sources all in one month and of course couldn't / wouldn't communicate. For him , I think he just has the same patterns and eventually the woman catches on and once he is no longer adored - he is out. Equal opp Narc.

momoya

#11 May 15 - 1PM (Reply to #12)

dudette

equal opp narc!

momoya that's really funny!!!

#12 May 12 - 12PM

mynewlife2011

from experience...

I was married to my ExN for 13 years, and in my case he did not treat me like he treated his many NS 1, 2-10 night stand sexcapades. N's compartmentalize, and on my end me and the kids were part of his "image" (very important to a N.) From the texting that I recovered from his smart phone in the deleted texts, he did use the same protocol for his NS "side candy". Always pushing bounderies to see just how much he could get from them... Also, and I have written this before, but will again in the event it helps someone who has been identified by a N. as "wife material." (we are all objects to benefit the N.) He did satisfy me sexually and did not abuse me sexually. He abused me every other way imaginable- but not sexually. He did make certain sex was a good experience for me, but for his NS "side candy" NOT AT ALL. I could see from the texts I found, and brought/discussed in counseling with him, that he treated them much differently. He never got off except by ejac following(always did with me), he never went down on them (always did with me- and boy were they ticked because he apparently had them go down on him!) He was always drinking/drunk with his side NS (not with me.) Many differences, yet one thing remains the same- He uses others to serve his own needs without considering the consequences of his behavior. The main difference is that I was used long-term. Be thankful if he moved on quickly.

#13 May 12 - 11AM

candy

neverlook back

oh yes they repeat all the same lines ... each morning he e mails ... MORNING BEAUTIFUL to them... exactly what he text me each morning ... sick fucker !!!

#14 May 12 - 11AM (Reply to #8)

neverlookback

UGH

at least they could be original and different with their victims for Gods sake, how LAZY ha ha the same line, same OH BABY, BEAUTIFUL crap, If one of these two women knew I wish one of them would respond, GOOD MORNING MY BEAUTIFUL SICK FUCKER!!!

#15 May 12 - 11AM (Reply to #9)

Used

their lines

b/c if they say it again and again they believe it as well, exn ended up so boring repitious and predictable, i used to say to him OH CHANGE THE SCRIPT.when ow came and told me about them she said, but he calls me that pet name, he tells me he loves me,i said yes we all get the same dialogue, with some it works and some it doesnt.boring boring boring.

#16 May 12 - 11AM

Used

nlb

you do it so well, i watched exn nov on his new f/b trying to get his ex as a friend this went on until feb, he then got her and shut down his wall, the message beign i got her eventually it was hard work but i done it, [i had told him when we were together she wouldnt be friends with him again b/c what he had done when he was visiting her home[me wrong ] she accepted him on f/b, but all i could think was what the hell is wrong with you women, she knew about me, so if i am not on his f/b he is useing her to wind me up[didnt work], but where is her pride. HOW TRIUMPHANT HE WAS THE DAY SHE ACCEPTED HIM,well good luck with that dear that what i think,she knew him well she knows shes beign USED for gods sake. you are so right about their friggen anticsxx

#17 May 12 - 11AM

wacaet

I discovered mine had sent

I discovered mine had sent several exploratory emails out the same night he sent one to me, initiating contact. The subject line was "how's my hair" I guess he'd judge by the responses who was his next victim. I didn't make the cut that time, I had to wait 3 more months for my turn.

#18 May 12 - 12PM (Reply to #2)

neverlookback

I am so sorry

you had to wait three months for YOUR TURN, ha ha ha I know its hard to be turned down when you are being auditioned for a role isnt it? ha ha ha just didnt make the cut - your response wasnt good enough for a SICK F to capitalize on. They see those responses and weed thru them and think AH AH, there is ONE that I can use and abuse - That brings to mind the times he always cast me aside when I wanted to see him, guess he had other body parts that were more interesting to him at the time, had more important orgies to attend to so he just kept me on the shelf crying for him and would take me down when he felt like a little NEVERLOOKBACKS stuff. Newer toaster ovens, mmmm oh boy cant turn that down you might miss out on some new genitalia and god forbid you know that is the drug that feeds them.

#19 May 12 - 2PM (Reply to #5)

mynewlife2011

LMAO

thank you for that neverlookback!!! Truer words were never spoken Hugs

#20 May 12 - 12PM (Reply to #3)

wacaet

well, if he hadn't made me

well, if he hadn't made me wait 3 months, I'd be 3 months further along in getting over his sorry ass! lol

#21 May 12 - 12PM (Reply to #4)

neverlookback

how true

if we had to got thru this we might as well get it over as fast as you can, dont drag it out just do it fast, be the perfect soul mate, take the mask off QUICKLY do the D&D and get it over with, knock me off the pedestal as painlessly as possible so I can lick my wounds and pick up my life you shattered. See how we now are able to break this down to a science with these sickos? Hey when your turn is up, its up. He will never again give you what he did in the beginning he is done pretending he is your soul mate, now on to the next victim I can destroy who will feed me my drug.

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