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Do you ever get sick of crying?

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#1 Jan 18 - 3AM
I_am_free
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Do you ever get sick of crying?

Have not cried in a while..started feeling alot better and could carry on with day to day activities..these days if I feel as if I am about to cry I stop and think 'Argh! Im sick of crying...F## crying' and do something to distract me

Is this normal? Or should I just cry cry cry till eventually I dont want to cry anymore?

Jan 21 - 5AM
walking_on_sunshine
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I got really fed up with the

I got really fed up with the constant crying. It was to the point where I would be talking to myself telling myself to stop it, snap out of it, grow up, and clenching my firsts and shaking them in anger at myself for the continued boo hoo hoo. When I realized that tears released toxic neurochemicals I decided to cry whenever I felt like it. Ultimately it was distraction that stopped me from crying, not just from waiting for time to pass . The mind needs to get distracted or the crying will go on and on and on and on and on and on and on. I still cry now but only if I'm forced to discus the story of what happened.
Jan 20 - 9PM
Stillstanding
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My ex Narc abandoned our

My ex Narc abandoned our daughter and I in 3/10. I cried everynight for an entire year. I've been D&D multiple times, the last one being in 12/28/2011. I no longer cry. Even when I'm triggered. Usually I'll feel anger or sadness and I'll really try to feel those emotions and ride them out but they won't last longer than 30 secs. It's like I have no more tears left for him. It does get better. When you feel like crying please cry. I see it as detox for my soul.
Jan 20 - 7PM
IncognitoBurrito
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I don't.

I don't let myself slip up and do that. It's a problem, because I end up doing things I regret later. Like cursing out employers.
Jan 20 - 5PM
Lookonthesunnyside
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Oh yeah, I have never cried

Oh yeah, I have never cried as much as when I was with my ex. Also afterwards I've cried a lot, even in public or teared up when Im hanging out in a group of people and think about something. I too am SO sick of crying. Im getting better though at blocking thoughts of him. But I have recently moved back to the city he lives in and am avoiding going out and doing certain things because I know that if I see him I will come home and cry and have a break down. Its always fairly close to the surface. One day we wont be crying over them any more!! We will get there
Jan 18 - 2PM
Run4it
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I cried constantly

especially the first 2 months. Big huge tears that just fell out of my eyes. I had never cried in that manner in my entire life! Now, it is less and less, usually when I am out for a run by myself listening to music. I will just feel the urge to cry, so I do. I don't even question why anymore. I just know it has to happen. I am human. I cry because I love and hurt. He cried to manipulate.
Jan 20 - 7PM (Reply to #10)
NarcJunkie
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Excellent point, Run4it

We cry because we're human and we're experiencing our pain and letting it out, but Narcs cry to manipulate us. I can't believe I fell for his big crocodile tears! Makes you wonder if they practise in front of a mirror or something...
Jan 18 - 1PM
I_am_free
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Evening Ladies, Thank

Evening Ladies, Thank You...you have no idea how much this forum has helped me....especially during the first weeks of NC. Its comforting to know there r ppl who understand what I am going through..every1 else seems to think I just married a dooshbag and thats it. I know I need to allow myself to cry and feel whatever emotion comes along..baby steps...it feels good tho to know i can actually cry!
Jan 18 - 2PM (Reply to #8)
Snowflake
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We are all in this together

I am a newbie so am like a sponge soaking up all the info and the people on here are so so lovely and supportive. People who havent been with an N dont understand the intricate emotions...its the change that gets us..going from somebodys special to somebodys nothing. I think we all have issues to not have pressed that f off button...low self esteem, co-dependancy whatever but as long as we all support each other we will get there no matter how much we have to cry together to get there x
Jan 18 - 5AM
I_am_free
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Thanks ladies, suppose having

Thanks ladies, suppose having had to withhold my tears and emotions growing up means its a habit difficult to break..its just at times I feel I'm sick of crying and rather want to be happy and feel crying means I am sad all the time and I'm sick of being depressed over that twat
Jan 18 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
spinning
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I-am-free, don't be afraid of

or feel bad about your crying...like the members say here, it is necessary and actually good for you. You will stop when it's all out, and that's a good thing! Here is a blog from Lisa that may help you. http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/02/19/dont-be-afraid-cry Hugs to you, I-am. It's okay to feel the pain and sadness and let it out and let it go. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. AND NOT CRYING ANY MORE EITHER. IT TAKES TIME

spinning

Jan 18 - 7AM (Reply to #5)
Sparrow
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Don't be. Crying is natural

Don't be. Crying is natural and it is healthy. You were taught not to cry. You were taught many wrong things unfortunately. Cry until you have no more tears. Holding back anything, holds back your recovery. Let it all out. If you hold it in, it just means you are putting off the inevitable. You will eventually have to deal with it. Go with the flow, the cycle........it's natural.
Jan 18 - 5AM
Sparrow
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Don't fight the tears. Let

Don't fight the tears. Let them out. Eventually, the crying will stop. Suppressing your emotions is not healthy for you. The crying will slow down as time goes on.
Jan 18 - 4AM
bgirl
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I have cried everyday for 8

I have cried everyday for 8 months, but I started out crying all day every day, now it is just triggers that set me off....didn't know I owned so many tears :) X B
Jan 18 - 3AM
Snowflake
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I was always told..

Cry until you cant cry anymore, its your body's way of getting rid of the emotions and toxins, holding it in will not do you any good in my opinion so if you feel the need to cry, and are in a safe environment to be able to do so then let it out.