Do they purposefully test us?
Do they purposefully test us?
One question I have had in dealing with my N is there were many times when he would kind of do the whole boomerang thing of pulling me close, pushing me away, over and over and again...in fact, it got to the point where it was almost predictable...like I could just count on the fact that if we did something together that normal people would see as a bonding experience, he would backpedal in a few hours or the next day and immediately put emotional distance there again.
I wondered if a lot of it was just him pushing and testing me to see how far I'd let him push, or to kind of "train" me. He was really big on expectations...namely, that he didn't want me to have any of him, which would make it easy for him to come and go as he pleased.
But is that typical? I mean, is it purposeful, what they do? Was he testing me to make sure I'd react appropriately (or his idea of appropriate) to him? Or is it just second nature? Most of the time I felt like many of his moves were strategic, deliberate...but I could be wrong about that...maybe it was all about poor impulse control and going along with his whims, which, of course, changed frequently. With me, too, it seemed like the his cycles would occur more frequently the more secure he seemed of me being there...and the cycles themselves in terms of his actions would be more extreme (like sleeping with me one night and less than a week later suddenly he is back together with an old gf).
YEAH when you start writing it out it really does sound completely awful and abusive, even if I allowed it and made excuses for it during the time.
I hear what everyone is
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nolongercontrolled
Push...Pull.....Push....Pull
Thanks Lisa
oh that is comforting to
Mine would be that way after
re: Mine would be that way after for better off
omg!
re OMG
stop it stop it stop it
re: stop it!!
cupcake
That's awful!!
awful 2
adeline
cupcake - descriptions of narcs & their behavior
yes
Mine admitted it!
it isn't easy to figure out
This makes sense
hi Adeline
OMG!
? Women can be narcissists?
Oh Yes
testing you