Do They Hate Us?

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#1 Jul 5 - 8PM
bakingfortherapy
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Do They Hate Us?

I wonder if these Narcs are even capable of hate at all. They can't really love so they can't really hate right? I read a posting, a gal felt he ex hated her, I saw my ex N last wk- he walked right next to me with such hatred on his face. I don't think they feel any emotion???

Jul 7 - 8PM
Hunter
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I think they are a shell,

I think they are a shell, however they are walking distraction. Love, Hate, fear? I doubt it. Hunter
Jul 6 - 10PM
ordinarycourage
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They Hate Themselves

During the divorce from my N, we were required to go to mediation for parenting plan issues. I told the mediator before my N arrived (he was late, of course) that the N has only one emotion...anger! The mediator didn't know what to make of that.
Jul 7 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
Goldie
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I'm with you; they hate themselves

You can't love another if you hate yourself. They loath everything, they just hide it well, of course until they let their masks down. God bless, Goldie
Jul 6 - 3PM
Arwen
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My experience with them is

My experience with them is that they rage, and in particular more than anything - they are competitive with us. They don't want the intimacy it seems but they also don't want anyone of their exes to surpass them G-d forbid.
Jul 6 - 9AM
gettinbetter
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No not really. They do not

No not really. They do not love or hate with any depth. Their love and hate is much like that of a small child. Do you remember when you were little and your best friend did something to make you angry and you would say I hate you you are not my friend anymore and then a couple of days or even hours later you were best friends again like nothing ever happened? Its the same way for them they have the emotional depth of a child. That's why they can wake up one morning without warning tell u they don't love you pack their shit and dissapear. Only to return months or years later like nothing ever happened. There is simply no depth of emotion or attachment
Jul 6 - 8AM
Susan32
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It's not the normal hatred

It's the kind of hatred my nephew has when he doesn't get what he wants when he wants it. It's not very deep. Remember... my nephew is going to be turning 2 in October. The ex-Psych prof would tell people how he HATED me, but then he'd go out to lunch with me, read my essays. NORMAL hatred is such that you AVOID the other person completely, and you're open about it. If you HATE someone, you don't go out to lunch with them. At all. His "hatred" was that I didn't do what he wanted when&how he wanted it. It's like one of my nephew's meltdowns when my sister won't take him out to the playground. After the final D&D, the ex-P was begging me to hate him because I told him that some of my classmates despised him on account of his behavior. (Yes, he took the "Narcs hate to be loved, love to be hated" literally) For me, hatred is waaay too strong an emotion. It has to be directed at the right target. I told the ex-P I HATED his behavior, but not him. The delighted smile drained from his face. Hatred is a strong feeling. And Ns/Ps don't have that depth of feeling.
Jul 5 - 10PM
Amazed
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All you are is supply

They have aggression and rage. That is it. You are the victim no matter what. Don't analyze him. Stay away.
Jul 5 - 8PM
Redhead1
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More than likely he is just

More than likely he is just pissed because he can't control you no more. They are freaks:)