Do I warn her about him?
Do I warn her about him?
Hi there - my recent experience with a narc was only an online experience via facebook. I made facebook friends with a dad at the school. It started off as just innocent chats but he escalated it to include winks, flirty chats, kisses, flattering me etc. I hadn't found him attractive but after communicating with him I got a crush (I now realise this was based on fantasy). So I had feelings for him. Then he got me live on chat and made sexual comments and was quite lewd and that was it - the devalue and discard happened - I never heard from him again. I was actually really hurt and also found it hard to deal with guilt as we are both married, even though nothing 'real' had ever happened. The more I find out about him the more I can see he is a narc. He likes to be centre of attention and has women flocking around him and his conversations are only about himself. He obviously didn't consider any feelings I may have had at all. However I have had to see him as his son and my daughter are at the same school. But I'm doing a good job of avoiding him and am NC apart from having to see him. I unfriended him on Facebook. He often parks outside my house, he looks in my direction often, yesterday he came over to where I was and smiled and I quickly just said ' have to go' and got away as fast as I could. Well after he devalued and discarded me he started to comment on my friends facebook all the time. She is another mum who I am the most friendly with in the class. Initially I wondered if he was trying to get to me by doing this. I have never told her about any of what happened between him and me. So every time she writes a comment on FB, he comments back. He also chats to her in the playground.I don't know if they chat live on FB. Anyway I went out for a drink last night with her and she mentioned him loads. She kept on talking about him. I thought ' oh no!' is he doing the same to her now by flattering her. This is how it started with me. I kept on changing the subject and she would return to him. She didn't say anything about any feelings but it was weird how she kept mentioning him. I am wondering if she may have a crush too - she is also married. She obviously likes him. Now the dilemma is - do I tell her what happened to me? Do I warn her against him? Do I just keep quiet and try and move on from all of this? She is a lovely lady and I wish he'd just leave everyone alone. It's like he's trying to be superstud of the mums and play games with them. Today he parked right outside my house again and I totally ignored him.
Under normal circumstances
to warn or not to warn
Doesn't work...
not now!
not saying this is this case with you
Unfortunately you can't. It's
NO
momoya
Parking in Front of your Home
No.
This is easy, " NO " not
Ditto! She unfortunately
Thanks
Ideal is right on!! We could
Listening to the Ex
I was warned
Me either. I was so