Do all of them cheat?

Even after I found where my N had been talking to sluts on the dating website, he still denied it. He got mad at me because I looked at his history to see what sites he had been visiting. He was not talking to just one, he had about 10 and that's just the ones I clicked on. The ones that made me sick were where they were telling him what they wanted to do to him. Also, I told him I had a gut feeling that he was cheating, and he said it didn't matter. I had no right to check on him. Before it all blew up, I had convinced myself that he wasn't trying to see anyone. Funny, the emails go back 2 months. So, while we were having sex, he was still looking. I get sick thinking about it. I told him I did not want to get any kind of disease and he said he didn't either. He never had to worry about me because I only wanted him. He asked me one time, did I enjoy "banging". Silly me, I said yes, but only with you. Really helped his ego.

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I feel pretty sure mine never cheated, he got it all with me, and he has grossly low self esteem and a hard time approaching women, plus he is older now, in his 60's, but I do know he cheated once on his first wife, she told me, it was a mutual friend of theirs.

You may not have the 'evidence' but if your gut is saying there is something 'hinky' going on then believe it. I never had any evidence either but when the enthusiasm would be next to nothing and he could barely orgasm, that to me is evidence. When me dressing up sexy in lingerie, heels, hair done and make-up perfect, would arouse little or no interest from him, that's evidence. So while the 'ho ain't struttin out of the bedroom' there are lots and lots of indicators especially if a man is nasty to you, to indicate that 'other womanly' presence. Besides the absolute proof??? N's need more than one supply source. They always will. 'nuff said stay strong and trust yourself

Wiserwoman, what a great point... You sound like me. I started looking through my N's phone, and internet history I just had a funny feeling, why he was being so distant etc. I found that he had signed up to internet dating sites and checked them every now and then and when confronted he still denied ever cheating on me. He told me he set it up to catch me snooping a lie that took him a few days to concot. I actually don't believe he was cheating on my physically because he never had a second to, but I think he was actively looking and would have if I stayed with him any longer. I think mine was too lazy to cheat but if given the opportunity on a platter he would have taken it. I did however find emails that he sent his friends when he went overseas and we were pretty smitten with each other. He was single at the time and so was I. But his emails told his friends don't tell (my name) but I met this great girl want to marry her, move in with her etc. Then he told me he never slept with any of his housemates whilst overseas, but I found in those emails that he did. I also found out he was keeping in contact with his ex. I didn't think my N was a player and I found all of this out 4 years later, but I realised I could never trust what he said. He lied to my face about a lot of things and when confronted with cheating he would say "I don't have the time" not "I love you, are you bonkers I would never cheat" not the answer I was looking for. This answer to me was enough to know he didn't love me like I loved him. Mine accused me of cheating a lot, and I think he did it because he was up to no good...or maybe he was insecure. I don't think I will ever know the truth...but I know he lies and he is capable. I just wish I knew for sure, I never found anything in his phone though and he really wasn't clever enough to delete anything. I started snooping when he acted strange, would go silent for days or when he would always take his phone with him even to the bathroom. This behaviour made me snoop. Poor form I know, but I'm glad I found the things I did. It made me realise anyone can hide anything even a part of who they are and get away with it. I couldn't trust mine after the online dating sites and was sick of feeling like I wasn't good enough. I'm right there with you, bad behaviour, so of course you wonder if there is someone else, otherwise why would they treat us like we are disposable?

Hi Hun, I think most do hun, If there not cheating on us hun they are up to something, Mine would shag anything with a hole and i no that sounds bad but its true, If he could fuck himself he would, When you think about it they are cheating on us what ever way you look at it, As we are not getting treated properly in the relationship by them anyway, Your better off out hun, Stay NC and be happy.xx