DIVORCED

Just wanted to tell all that I am now officially DIVORCED.
I was undecided weather to go to court to get part of his pension but in the end saw sense and realised i dont want to be in any way connected to him anymore and money i can find. He kept writing to my lawyer asking why i was delaying the decree absolute and was insinuating that maybe i was not able to move on...so without his knowledge i told the lawyer to proceed and apply for the absolute and my divorce become final on the 21st dec and i have been nc for over a year. I can say with hand on my heart with time I am now almost back to my old self and if there is any feelings for him its only one of pity. I lost everything with this man and i am proud to say i am not bitter...lessons have be learnt, the only thing that worries me is that I have put my heart in chains and wont let anyone in....the carefree me is lost.
I would like to thank this site for being here, without you all i would have continued the cycle of breaking up and going back and not understanding the abuse. It was Hell but with NC comes peace and understanding.
I believe my finding this site was no coincidence, the time was right and with the Lords guidance I have found peace. I have got through the blackmail,harrassment,lies,fraud,abuse physical and mental.
Thank you xx