DID YOURS EVER DO THIS?

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#1 Jul 13 - 6AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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DID YOURS EVER DO THIS?

I think back to all the lies and trickery, you will love some of these responses I got:

when will I see you again? When you are in front of me

Do you miss me? Constantly

You are soo cute sometimes, Oh I know, afterall I am ME

Why havent I heard from you for days? I have been busy, you know I work and when I am on duty catching bank robbers, rescuing cats from trees, clearing streets from riots, (such a pillar to the community isnt he) taking care of my mom who has cancer (oh by the way he told me she had 5 months to live and that was 10 months ago)

Why cant you ever take time off for me? My vacations are put in ahead of time, and It would be hard to explain to my girlfriend time away from her, I am accountable to her you know for my time (ya right) and she is always over here at my house (gee this was the same girlfriend that he expressed the relationship wasnt really going anywhere, when I called him on it he got mad and said I dont need to listen to this shit)

You will love this one, whenever I told him look this isnt working, you obviously are just not interested in me so its best we part and i will release you to the life you prefer, he would tell me I was emotional, multiple personality, insecure, crazy, or on the rag told me to call him back when my period was over, I was a depressed person and after he talked to me he wanted to slash his wrists and I brought him down so much, told me I was never happy,

Another good one, If I werent in a current relationship I would steal you from your husband and we would be together forever... (ya right so you could treat me like you do her, I can hardly wait) So you can call other women and masturbate on the phone to them, meet them at motels behind my back, have me shack up with you part time, take me to the policemans ball so you look normal, so i can devote 8 years of my life and love to a man who can never love. I can hardly wait to play that role.

Here is a little free insight from my $$$$$ and extensive counseling I received for over a year for one and all, if some of it applies to you I am glad it helped. Thru all this I lost weight, my job of 6 years, in the beginning I had to take a Family medical leave from the trauma because I couldnt function, I was put on a mild sedative for anxiety and of course counseling twice a week. Little did the freak know as he was charming and conning me I was reporting his behavior to a professional. Now according to the professionals they ARE NOT MENTALLY SICK, but highly disturbed, mmmm whats the difference I suppose its because they still can function, and blend into society some mentally ill people cant function in society, I still say they are boarder line mentally sick but we wont get into fancy psycho names they are who they are. When we are discarded and/or put on a shelf for future supply and they are off seeking new and fresh prey we must remember something, (counselors advise) beauty, talent, intellegence, all the good qualities we may have even though that is what initially they are attracted to - its never enough to sustain them, they really dont want companionship as we do, they hunt some prey is more attractive (a bonus) and some arent really doesnt matter if in the end it gets them what they are after. When we become nothing more than a maintainance job with too many questions they put us on a shelf (might need us again when they are at a low) they are off promising a dream to someone else, oh they will give you a lethal dose of their charm and sex to keep us around and they hate nothing more than to do this its a chore for them. Thats the cycle of their lives. I have cried bitter tears sitting on that shelf almost as if to say, when is it my turn again oh great one. I am no longer on that shelf when he goes to reach for me but they all have ALOT of back ups for their addiction. We all have to get off that shelf its no place to be

Jul 15 - 8AM
James (not verified)
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breaking away

? ( sorry but I don't see a screename for the original poster but this is to that person) OP thanks for sharing and yes I too can relate to what you wrote. I reread what you wrote and what another posters wrote about when you tried to break it off they will just come back and try to rekindle the relationship again. I have a friend in California who I talked too a few weeks ago. She went on the tell me about someone she met through a dating site POF (Plenty of Fish) and how she was sure she wanted to end the relationship due to some factors. I told her because of what I was hearing to not be surprise if it wasn't easy for her to do so. After speaking that night we reschedule a time to talk again later. Well, she didn't call (very unusual for her) on the day we planned. Later, she email telling me again about her friend who I thought she was going to break up with for the reason not to get together. Another day was set for a talk but again no call. Learning about how these "bad" relationship can get I email last night apologizing if I was bugging but also was concern. I look today and still no email. I do hope she is alright and am sure she is. I'm just being silly but my point is how learning about all this stuff sometimes it can and does make us think twice whenever a friend get involved with a relationship, more so for when it's from a dating site. I hope all is fine with her and she talk/emails to me soon.. Thanks for allowing me to vent, I am just concern and sometimes it helps when I share my feeling.. Thanks again readers and any advise would be appreciated
Jul 15 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
cin (not verified)
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its me cindy

I give up on this logging in, i have resigned that I am a retard, ha ha I am sure your friend is ok, you are extra cautious and how sweet of you to worry, geez wonder why we are so cautious, mmmmmm we do worry about our friends and only want what is best for them ya dont you love the excuses? yes his mom does actually have cancer, because I called the hospital she was having surgery at and sure enough she was there this was some time back though but I think she is in full recovery and he LIES to make it seem like he is so busy, I could really find out how she is doing by my aunt who is good friends with her but to tell you the truth WHO CARES, he will just give me another lie to wonder about. I can not live my life wondering about the lies of someone, life is too short
Jul 16 - 2AM (Reply to #8)
James (not verified)
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cin aka cindy

Thanks cin/cindy, yes I sure she will be fine. Sorry to hear about his mom having cancer but not sorry he used it as a reason to be so busy. Also sorry you are having trouble logging in. A trick I use is open a document application like notepad type your screen name and password, save the doc and if you need to refresh your memory open up the doc to make sure you have it correct.
Jul 15 - 10PM (Reply to #7)
Barbara (not verified)
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cindy

please write down your new nickname and password somewhere. We have to delete duplicate accounts. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily Online Coaching for Victims of Narcissists/ Psychopaths
Jul 15 - 8AM
Marie
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A chore

Yep that's how I felt alright. Like work. Breaking away from him was so hard but when things started to become too obvious I couldn't allow myself to be treated like that. When I questioned, yes, I was the sick one. It was all in my imagination. That was a pretty real phantom lady I saw walk passed my house. I will always wonder why she walked passed that day. She was the one I saw outside his house hugging and kissing him. It made me want to vomit. When I described her to him, he lied and said he didn't know anyone that looked like that. There she was last summer with her little boy outside my window looking at my garden. Once again I confronted him and he denied it that's when I told him to go eff himself, get out of my life and leave me alone. I meant it but he hung around as if he were doing me a big favor. He's always so busy and he can't find the time to fit anyone in. Oh and yes he always falls back on the sick elderly mom and now has a comatose wife to add to the list. As if he does anything for either. He's been on disability for years now. Using an old injury, then raising a small child, now an elderly mom as reasons he can't go to work. Always a reason, always an excuse so they can go chase after someone else and you become reduced to a hysterical bitchy woman.
Jul 13 - 9PM
James (not verified)
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So Sorry to Hear about that

“taking care of my mom who has cancer (oh by the way he told me she had 5 months to live and that was 10 months ago) “ LOL! Sorry but, While I not sure if his mother does or does not have cancer, many use this as a “pity play” to hook victims. The following link points this out and how Ms. Ferrell used it to con some of her victims. http://www.observer.com/2009/style/hipster-grifter http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/2009/05/why-many-want-nc-no-contact.html
Jul 13 - 1PM
Barbara (not verified)
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cindi

typical and classic narc. CLASSIC. They aren't living in the real world. That's why NO CONTACT is vital so you don't have to listen to or try to figure out these abnormal responses! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily Online Coaching for Victims of Narcissists/ Psychopaths
Jul 13 - 10AM
quietude (not verified)
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do you mean

Do you mean, always give puzzling and abnormal responses? Yes, most of the time. Non-answers, sarcasm, projecting, drama, non-apologies, and criticsisms...this is the language and actions of the N. You noted, "so i can devote 8 years of my life and love to a man who can never love"...you said it all right there!