Did Everyone Survive Thanksgiving???

This is my second Thanksgiving WITHOUT my ex-N and boy, did it feel fantastic! Talk about being THANKFUL. I sure am. It was an amazing contrast to holidays with the N....he always made them miserable. I remember crying all the way home (a six hour drive) after one where I didn't get to see MY family because we had to spend the entire time at HIS Mom's. My family and his mom live approx one hour apart and he didn't want to make the drive. What an a@@hole. I can't explain how light hearted I felt this Thanksgiving...it was like being in a really good dream. Only now, it's my life! To all of you who are on this journey....trust me, it's SO worth it. neveragain

My first Thanksgiving in two years not wondering what he was doing because we were long distance the first two and not getting even an email to wish me anything - not even drop dead LOL!! Well, woke up crying. We were going to do thanksgiving for my family and come hell or high water I was having it anyway in the apartment that I got for us. Cooked the entire meal. My family was great. I had a great time after all with them all being here. My mother called me later in the night to tell me how really impressed and proud she was - that I had learned something after all those years of living with them. She also told me out of the blue - "What a jackass he is, he missed out on a great girl that has so much to offer and is just a very loving, endearing soul, what a loss for him, he really lost". I was shocked she said this - of course I started to cry when she said it thinking - yeah Im no so bad. Woke up crying again this morning but thats only because I miss a liar and a cheater - go figure. Pretend guy was a great guy. Too bad he died. Take care of that burn. They can be nasty.

mine contacted me and told me his mother died, on Thanksgiving day sobbed, then later left a msg, asking me to come to the service and I could stay at his house and sleep with he and his girlfriend if I wanted to, oh ya the girlfriend was in the background saying, sure I dont care. Isnt that nice I know I slipped like so many do I told him I was sorry for his loss and that was it, his mom did infact die I looked up the obit, it described the GF as special friend that took care of his mother, ok I am back I just threw up, ya I am going to go to the service and see him with his girlfriend while he introduces me as his adoptive cousin, we were both adopted and our mothers were 2nd cousins, now if that AINT SICK

for the new gf of 6 mths,(surprised she hasn't dumped him yet). This is hysterical... He called and said they would be by for our daughter. I asked him where he was taking her to and he said he was taking her to his mothers, which he doesn't even have a relationship with and hasn't seen her in years, although she just lived 25 minutes away from us. Our daughter is 6 yrs old and has yet to meet her. Then, they were going to the nursing home (he said funeral home first and then corrected himself) to see his grandfather. Oh my gosh, what a show! He hates his mother and couldn't give a rat's ass about his grandparents. Everytime he didn't want to go to work, he would call in and say his grandmother had died. He used that excuse at every job he ever had. When his poor grandmother really did die, he said he wasn't that close to her anyway and went to work! I bet gf thought he was sooo sweet to want to see his old grandpa. What a fake! He called daughter and daughter asked him if she could stay with me because all of her cousins were going to be there and we were going to church and having turkey, ham, mash potatoes (gave him the whole menu!). He said that was fine and told me he wasn't going to deprive her of her big family festive. Then he texted me later and said I probably told her how much fun she was going to miss out on and said I was so selfish and unfair...WTF?! It was his holiday, I didn't force him to leave her behind. I'm sure he got all the pity from his gf about what a sorry bitch I am to him and not being able to have his daughter for the holiday. Geez, I'm soo sick of his shit! And then I'm thinking, you know, he and I never had time to ourselves. We always had the kids. Right now, it's just him and her probably cuddling on the couch, not having to referee between the kids! But I'm sure it's not all that, right? We're not even together anymore and yet, he still manages to ruin my holidays.

No drama here. I had a really nice time at a friend's house with her family, lots of nice people and lots of laughs. We're having our little family thing tomorrow. I did get an email from him yesterday (first one since he's "moved on") and it just said I hope you are doing well and you have a happy Thanksgiving and be safe on your motorcycle. It was no big deal, I deleted it. He's just trying to be nice to keep me on the back burner in case he needs me again. I'm sure he'll be pissed that I didn't reply, but for him that will mean he will leave me alone for a while again.

This was my first holiday after a 30-year marriage. I have been trying to maintain no contact, but it is difficult. Well, he called my daughter (the only 1 of 3 who will still speak with him) and then asked to talk to the twin granddaughters who were standing by my daughter when he called (whose mother does NOT want them to have any contact with him). Well, of course she lets them talk, I am in the kitchen cooking, and my granddaughter comes in and says "Grandpa says that YOU can call him anytime so I can talk to him." ARRRGGHHH!! This is the grandpa who is a sex addict and traveled 2000 miles away and called the granddaughters only once in 6 months! So now, he is turning it around on me, saying I need to call!! (the twin granddaugthers are 7 years old and were devastated by the way he left). Then he calls on the home phone and leaves this long sorrowful message about just wanting to talk and how much he misses everyone! I had been warned that N's do this at holidays, I guess I should have been prepared! But I refused to talk to him or call him back. Happy thanksgiving everyone! Janet

JuneBug Definitely on my way to recovery, I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving!!:)

One story I actuallly heard a narcissist tell was a Thanksgiving at his house. the day before the thanksgiving dinner his wife was preparing he informed her he didn't like her family and wanted them to be un-invited. She couldn't do that of course so when they arrived he waited until the turkey was on the table and walked over to the turkey, picked it up, and threw it out the window! he roared with laughter at this point and said, "you should have seen her family grovel in the dirt for the turkey." His wife was sitting there in embarassed silence. She was crazy to stay with him she might have been the next one out the window. they love making holidays into nighmares and nothing embarasses them.

First thanksgiving without my N father....kinda an odd feeling to it...a bit lonely. He tried my proxy to get sympathy via my brothers, but wasnt happening from me. I have been NC since March with him. Missing XN a bit....but that is to be expected since this time last year he was the nice XN....plus with the dad issue it compounds it. I'm getting by though...the best that I can. I will be better around March after all the holidays and memories are gone. “It's not hard to find the truth. What is hard is not to run away from it once you have found it.”

exNH was here. I burned my hand... he had NO REACTION the kids saw his lack of reaction and were very upset... told me so in private... (he's doing it to himself here... and I just LET him) then he tried to tell them HOW to eat their dinner. They ignored him. When the door closed after he left and they knew he was out of earshot there was a LOT of cheering... LOL ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem

It was the BEST I've had in the past three years! I cooked without any pressure, no N standing around telling me what and how to do something I had been doing for over 20 years without help...lol...the food all came out wonderfully..and even though I felt like I wanted to talk to him and see if he was ok today...I have made myself comfortable on the sofa and refuse to give in to those feelings. I have a peace today that I haven't had in sooo very long on a holiday. This is my first without NarcNut and I'm so THANKful today that I made the decision to get away and get my joy back! Hope everyone has a Blessed holiday weekend. Hangman