Did anyone else's narc replace her with another primary supply who WASN'T another woman?

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He chose to be w/ his male friends rather than spend time w/ me. If he had gone to gay bars several times, does that mean he is gay? Don't know now, cause everything he said was a lie.

He chose to be w/ his male friends rather than spend time w/ me. If he had gone to gay bars several times, does that mean he is gay? Don't know now, cause everything he said was a lie.

He chose to be w/ his male friends rather than spend time w/ me. If he had gone to gay bars several times, does that mean he is gay? Don't know now, cause everything he said was a lie.

after D&D when i was back in Europe (my ex N lives in Oklahoma)ex N told me first he was maybe gay...then he told me he wasn't(he was just trying me to get the hell away from me)then that he was going to be a Big Brother(the big brother project in Tulsa is a project that alloud less privileged children to spend a weekend with a men if you are a boy or witha woman if you are a girl and learn stuff or just camping,sports etc...)Then he told me he was talking to awoman on the net that was just like me only she wasn't crazy as i am....Then he told me he was having cyber sex...when i sadi good for you what kind of women are they?he said well did i said women?i said people....and we gonna meet halfway when they are ready....and ALL of this in 2weeks time...and he works full time as a maintenance guy also stand by on wekends...talking about delusional and a f*****g liar....The reality is He is NUTS.....

Sheesh, what ISN'T a form of supply for an N. Mine was never satisfied with what he had. Got a new bike, one year later needed a newer, better bike. Got a motorcycle, one year later had a second motorcycle. Got a second car, two years later needed a third car. A friend stopped idolizing him or had the nerve to provide some constructive criticism? He got another friend. At one point I actually felt sorry for the bastard. To live one's life in a constant state of dissatisfaction must suck. The N, at least the one I had, is never happy. Sure, they pretend to be when they are in the spotlight they so adore but it is impossible to be happy when you are consistently looking for something or someone better than what you've got. Gratitude does not exist. Well, hehe, I no longer feel sorry for him. I only feel sorry for the cars he sits his repulsive ass in. :-) To answer your questions, yes, he has most likely found other supply. Is it another woman? Who knows. And, yes, he will treat her as he treated you. He was a narcissist before you met him so, of course, he will treat another woman as he did you. He's hard wired that way.

Yep. Waiting in the wings was his ever faithful workout buddy...'GI Joe'. Reminiscent of a movie that has aired 3x in the past 2 weeks... Ranch owner to Ennis & Jack: "You boys sure found a way to make the time pass up there. Twist, you guys wasn't gettin' paid to leave the dogs babysittin' the sheep while you stem the rose." -- Brokeback Mountain (2005)

My ex-P had a circle of male disciples for supply... and apparently he talked philosophy with them (because his mentors were Cora Diamond and the late Richard Rorty, which apparently made him full of awesome), but not with me, because I was a girl. A lot of my friends hinted that my ex-P might be gay. He seemed to be more at ease with them than he was with me (well, he said he was scared of me) One said "He prefers young men." Another said "He's attracted to you because you look like a boy." Another joked about him "honky-tonkying" with a fellow male professor. Once his circle of male disciples graduated...well, there will always be young men, and thus supply. What's sad is that one of his former male disciples hasn't gone on to be a philosopher. He's in the music business, lives in the Pacific Northwest, and has changed his name. But at least he's doing what he loves,because he always liked music.

He replaced me alright, but I would hardly call her a woman !! She is a psycho stalker who made my life miserable and did so much stuff behind my back it was sickening. She is an admitted coke user and a convicted felon who lost custody of her own children and has lived quite a sexually promiscuous past. Sounds like a real winner, huh ?? But I guess that's what he is into for now. But I would hardly classify her as a woman, even though to look at her she is, but to know her, well, she is just trash !! Ok, done bitching for the day !! :)

Although I found out just in time that these were his secondary, tertiary and (whatever the fourth one is) all along...while working on his next victim. So lovely.

After he and his ex-girlfriend broke-up, he went to live with a male friend. They have been living together for a year now. When we would talk on the phone, he always needed to "Go be with his friend". It was always "His friend this and his friend that", talked about him all the time. I jokingly called his friend his husband one time and he got really mad. It was very strange and was one of the red flags that I saw immediately.

Mine replaced me with porn years before our divorce. Sorry, I can't compete with porn.

mine always had others lined up during the week but none seemed to ever be a replacement but more like an a hour and a half booty call (plus, of course all the drama that went along with it). Until about 2 or 3 yrs ago when he left for longer periods of time it was because he had replaced me with a man 20 years younger. I believe he travels mostly in that circle now. Being a black, muscle man, i believe he has found an endless supply of adoration and easy sex there. (i am not black, btw, or gay as he likes to project.) I read that children are their biggest and easiest victims. Mine did have a slew of teenage and very young men (clients) that he spent way too much time with outside work. They were an endless supply of adoration. My son thought he was 'all that' too until i finally made it clear to him that the only reason he continued to text and contact him was to 'hurt' me. I believe once he could not get to my son, and get him to work for him during the summer, he finally stopped trying. That and the fact that he knew I would ruin him very publicly, no holding back, if he continued to try to use my son. Sorry, didn't mean to get off on my own story. I would guess the foster child is just an easy and constant source until he can find another. And I agree, I don't know how you manage living that close to him. Having him right there would be worse than the barrage of text and calls I used to get everyday, and that was bad enough. Much strength to you.

If I recall, his son's pretty young so he'll be a good source of supply for awhile. As far as the next woman goes, he won't treat her any better than he did you. I think it's Agnes that had a great story about how long her ex's new woman lasted. I really feel for you, Helldweller. It must be so difficult to get over the hump when the jerk lives so close. Please be good to yourself! You deserve to live on the first floor, Helldweller.