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#1 Dec 8 - 9AM
Worriedunhappy
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Devastated and need help and advice

Hi don't know where to start with this so sorry if I'm rambling hope it makes sense ! I've been with this man who I believe is a narc for 10 years off and on! In 2011 he told me before Xmas he didn't want this then disappeared but continued to see me all of 2012 where he turned 40 he had a 40th birthday party and invited all his harem of Facebook women and not me then he told me he was seeing someone I was gutted he contacted me a few times in 2013 came round to my house tried to touch me up etc also I should point out he was still on dating sites behind this other woman's back. This relationship lasted until October 2013 then he contacted me in December 2013 we met up and I seen him all of 2014 I was so relieved can't explain how happy I was he had came back to me I was so happy ! However it wasn't like before he would come to my house or I'd go to his we would always have sex he would not go out anywhere with me ever when I suggested he would say another time or I will let you know I didn't want to push this anymore so I kept seeing him didn't want to lose him ! I found out from Facebook he had been seeing another 3 women behind my back who had been given the term as friends however these women were taken out none lasted long but may I add they are still there as his adoring fans on Facebook liking his every move! Then on his birthday I seen from Facebook he was out at the pub and this woman was clearly running after him I then read the posts and she was referring to herself as his girl it was at this time end of November 2014 he came round to my house he asked me to get him beer he left me money for it and then went to bathroom a few times saying he was unwell he then said he was going to go I knew something was up he then gave me a hug said would get beer another time and left that was last I heard of him until Xmas day where he text saying happy Xmas and sorry he's been busy but will come round between Xmas and new year!! Then he went awol I left voicemail and text asking was he ok and nothing blanked I also found out he dumped the current woman in January of this year who again she is liking his every move and still chasing him ! Anyway the months passed and nothing from him he missed my 40th birthday he would always acknowledge that before my father passed and again nothing I was gutted how someone that I love and known all this time could just disappear nothing then in July of this year at a low point I text him as it was his dad's anniversary he text saying how was I and he's been busy with work and the gym I reply he ignored me again! Then i leave it ! I see from Facebook he's trying to get speciality flowers so know there must be a woman again and yes I could see her all over Facebook this woman is 7 years older and has money but wait for it she was involved in the murder of her previous partner it was published all over books and news etc he knows this and yet is still seeing her I can't fathom this !! Anyway beginning of sept I get message out blue saying how was i and sorry he's not been in touch but he's been busy and he's starting seeing someone and I better get myself a boyfriend I thought who the hell contacts their ex to tell them they are seeing someone! I replied saying oh my it lives thought you were dead he asks me over for a catch up !! I go as I want answers closure ! When I arrive (he's renting a room off a woman at 60 this guy is 43) he is very cold aloof like we are strangers we sit down I ask him why he went awol his response I text too much I said I have right to ask you what the hell happened when you disappear on me no explanation I then try to ask him more he clutches cushion at this point saying don't want to fight don't want to fight !! He then acts like the nice him and we start chatting properly he puts his leg over mine and makes a move on me im ashamed to say we had sex after it was over he gets up and goes to other sofa and says look what you made me do I said your kidding me you made the move on me so how is this my fault he said you need to go I said don't worry I'm going on way out he said we are just friends I said it's clear you and me can't be just Friends that's how we left it !! I tried to get in touch with him after it to clear the air he ignored I sent him birthday message and said could we meet had a gift again ignored me !! What else I'm heartbroken about beyond belief is he's blocked me on text phone and what's app he has even switched off his voicemail so i can't leave him a message ! Meanwhile the new murderer woman is being paraded about to family friends treated well and she keeps posting looking all so smug and I'm so so tempted into contacting her and saying he's had sex with me and is still on dating sites !! I'm not coping nearer it gets to holiday season thought of him and her together make me sick I'm a disaster and can't stop crying ! I tried last night to text him on different number but he instantly blocked me WHY has he done this I'm confused if he doesn't want me why not leave me alone and what kind of sicko contacts an ex of 10 year tells them they are seeing someone to rub my nose in it then invite me over have sex then blame me and then ignore me again and block me meanwhile him and her are all happy I'm hurt angry and a mess who does this does he hate me and how the hell do I recover from this car crash that is my life!! I want answers im angry I'm trying to resist the urge to contact this woman to tell her what he's done and I want answers from him I'm thinking as he's blocked me of turning up at his house unannounced on his day off but I'm scared of how he will react but I'm going crazy here need to do something please help me he's still on dating sites and changed his profile pic every 3 days and what really hurts all his exs and women friends on Facebook he's still talking to all of them and being oh so nice so why me the one thats always there that had his back why has he blocked me and done this please please advise I'm not in a good place feel I'm going crazy xx

Dec 11 - 4AM
Worriedunhappy
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Also can I ask I've known him

Dec 8 - 12PM
Worriedunhappy
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Anyone on this that can read

Dec 8 - 10AM
Worriedunhappy
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Anyone got any advice for me

Dec 8 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
truthnow
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Absolutely

Truthnow

Dec 8 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
Worriedunhappy
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Thanks I will but I'm needing

Dec 8 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Lookforward
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This is classic Narc

Dec 8 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
Worriedunhappy
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Thanks for taking time to

Dec 8 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Lookforward
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He's messing with your mind.

Dec 8 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
Worriedunhappy
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I know he plays mind games

Dec 8 - 6PM (Reply to #8)
Worriedunhappy
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I know he plays mind games

Dec 9 - 1PM (Reply to #30)
pattylyn
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My experience...

Dec 9 - 2PM (Reply to #31)
Worriedunhappy
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Thank you both for your

Dec 9 - 3PM (Reply to #34)
pattylyn
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There is no sense to nonsense...

Dec 10 - 6AM (Reply to #38)
Worriedunhappy
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Just woke up feel terrible

Dec 10 - 12PM (Reply to #39)
Worriedunhappy
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Can someone answer these questions

Dec 10 - 3PM (Reply to #40)
talktothehand
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Blogs

Dec 10 - 4PM (Reply to #41)
Worriedunhappy
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Thanks no i didn't read that

Dec 9 - 4PM (Reply to #35)
Worriedunhappy
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Thank you for your comment

Dec 9 - 5PM (Reply to #36)
pattylyn
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Toys

Dec 9 - 5PM (Reply to #37)
Worriedunhappy
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Thanks for your reply but

Dec 9 - 3PM (Reply to #32)
talktothehand
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read

Dec 9 - 3PM (Reply to #33)
Worriedunhappy
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I have read the blogs but

Dec 9 - 12PM (Reply to #29)
talktothehand
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Worried

Dec 9 - 11AM (Reply to #9)
Worriedunhappy
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Anyone ?

Dec 10 - 6PM (Reply to #10)
rebeccawho
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guuurl

rebecca

Dec 10 - 7PM (Reply to #11)
Worriedunhappy
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Never really thought of it

Dec 10 - 8PM (Reply to #12)
rebeccawho
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babe

rebecca

Dec 11 - 4AM (Reply to #28)
Worriedunhappy
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Also how am I trouble to him

Dec 10 - 8PM (Reply to #24)
rebeccawho
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tsk tsk

rebecca

Dec 11 - 4AM (Reply to #27)
Worriedunhappy
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To be honest find that