Dealing with triggers/fear.
Dealing with triggers/fear.
How do any of you deal with "triggers"? Like seeing the N when you have cut them out of your life. My ex-friend who I know was an N, is my trigger. The problem is we work in the same building and are sometimes on the same projects. I avoided an in person meeting and opted for conference call out of fear she would be there. And as soon as I heard her voice on the call i knew i made the right choice. She is my trigger, if I see her I will fell bad about myself and feel sad. I was at a mall in her neighborhood yesterday, i needed to go to a specific store that was in that mall, and that whole time i was paranoid I would run in to her. I don't even know if she goes to that mall, but i was still freaked out. Towards the end of my shopping i was waiting for the associate so I could pay, and i stood their, panicked, thinking OMG if i stand here too long i might see her. It's awful, I have a constant fear that I will see her or that she will come by my house, its awful. How do you all deal with this fear?
It has taken me baby steps
He is hundreds of miles away
You just have to deal, I'm to
So the key to avoiding
Avoiding him
Seeing my N
I was exactly the same way
Early on
Bad feelings and associations
I have had to change ALOT to avoid triggers in early phase of NC
This is tough and I feel for
That describes my feels EXACTLY
So true ...
It is tough glad I am not alone
You will have to work really