Dating......

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#1 Aug 20 - 11AM
fallingforward5
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Dating......

I had to change my name from fallingforward to fallingforward5.

Short update....on dating. I made the commitment to not date and am giving myself the 18 months the mods recommended.

It's been hard.....I been asked out a few times and have refused. I didn't see how much time these men were from my recovery. For while I was so busy trying to get myself set financially (recovering from the narc). That I didn't let myself deal with all the aspects of healing.

Though I have moved on (no longer have any contact or want any), I still am heartbroken about the whole illusions of lies. He lied from the first day I met him. I can see now that I wanted to believe the lies, because I was not happy with my own life. I experienced the death of many loved ones before I met him. My mom and my sister, and I was still grieving over them. I wanted someone to care for me. This along with other issues, (many others) help set me up for him. I'm someone who rolled with the punches and never really grieve other some of the situations in my life that called for it.

So sill.......no dating. Just working on me. Looking for a new counseler and learning how to live in the moments of life.

Hugs to all the strong men and woman here,
ff5

Aug 20 - 10PM
thebigpayback
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i got involved too soon as

Aug 24 - 6AM (Reply to #13)
Kitka
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I feel like I could have

Aug 26 - 6PM (Reply to #14)
Janie53
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kitka

Aug 21 - 10AM (Reply to #12)
fallingforward5
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Totally agree...

Aug 20 - 3PM
Maya (not verified)
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Dated too soon

Aug 21 - 10AM (Reply to #9)
fallingforward5
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lessonlearned

Aug 21 - 5PM (Reply to #10)
Janie53
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ff

Aug 20 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
Janie53
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Maya

Aug 21 - 10AM (Reply to #8)
fallingforward5
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so true...

Aug 20 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
Maya (not verified)
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Beautifully said

Aug 21 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
HappyToForget
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Awesome

Aug 21 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
Maya (not verified)
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Thanks for your support

Aug 20 - 12PM
Janie53
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Hey ff

Aug 20 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
fallingforward5
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Thanks Jamie...