THE DARK ABYSS OF DATING
THE DARK ABYSS OF DATING
It's been 4 months since the final d&d...but all of that time hasn't been NC...since we just had our last court date on April 26th. (Him wanting to clear his name from a site that outs cheaters...how dare I out him!)
For most of our 2 1/2 relationship I was extremely lonely & I believe the grieving process had already started while still in the "relationship" (or game is what I prefer to call it).
I have not been able to really put myself out there with anyone & I am sure it's way too soon. My aloofness only makes them chase me more. I don't call, I don't text, I don't care.I have felt ZERO chemistry with anyone.
One guy I was seeing for a little over a month went psycho on me yesterday...already looking for assurances that I wouldn't date anyone else. This made me really uncomfortable and I didn't like his tone with me. When I called him to politely tell him I didn't want to go on our date last night, I barely got out a few words when he started yelling and cursing as to why I was "pulling this shit" & "I was fucking blowing his mind"
Click...I hung up the phone & when he tried to call back I didn't pick up.
This guy was too much too soon...wanting me to meet his 15 month old daughter, looking for exclusiviity and talking about taking a trip together.
I definitely feel like a total psycho magnet.
I never thought I'd actually WANT to be alone. But I am actually enjoying meeting new girlfriends more...& I keep having more wonderful friends come into my life.
I am enjoying the small things...the things I couldn't appreciate or notice when I was living in my trance with the ExN.
I thought I HAD to give my heart to someone else to get over my ex N, but that isn't the case.
I feel at peace & my heart is mine again. It belongs to no one but my children, myself & God.
I remember a really empowering line from the movie "Sucker Punch":
"IF YOU DON'T STAND FOR SOMETHING, YOU'LL FALL FOR ANYTHING"
The exN taught me that NO ONE will ever verbally abuse me, devalue or degrade me again.
You are so right Swan. ExN
I'm glad you hung up the
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