D-Day #1

Tomorrow is D-Day #1. Or to be more exact later today since its past midnight here.

Big meeting with the Psych Evaluator. I wish I could say that this is a good thing. Despite the fact that the evaluator found nothing wrong with my daughter and that I wasn't doing anything wrong either, Idiot Boy ExN is STILL trying to get 50/50 and is basically ignoring the eval.

I've spent the past 10 days getting ready for the hearing on Wednesday. My attorney has let me do a lot of the work to help me save money. I've prepared all the exhibits, copies, etc. I've gone through over 8 reams of paper preparing 4, 5" binders of information. Its truly insane but its what one has to do to deal with an N/S/P's!

ExN's laid out a plan that a new family counselor is supposed to be following. He's expecting our daughter to be seeing him 50/50 by the start of school here; which is August 9th, less than 60 days from now. She won't even talk to him let alone go to his house!!

According to him, I'm supposed to report to him if she's late to school, tardy to class, or comes home early. Yet no such provision for him! He will "allow" her to come to my house after school during the week but I'm to report her whereabouts to him at all times! This is so "as not to disrupt her schedule." (My ass!) I need his permission to go out of the country. He will carry her insurance, and all of the holidays are mapped out to his convenience!

And that is only PART of his 5+ page manifesto parenting plan!

Well ladies and gents, I have my own plan!! To follow in Barbara's very experienced and illustrious footsteps, I have the truth! He's going to have to explain his own actions and why they're contradictory to the Evaluator's recommendations. It doesn't matter what he says, my daughter won't do it anyway. And the Evaluator won't back him up either. My lawyer's already pointed out that she's not seeing him now so how are they (the court) going to make her do it in the future.

I'm still nervous because you just never know. So if any one has some additional advice I'm all ears. In the past he's momentarily folded every time he's been faced with the truth but has managed to find a way around it, new therapist, etc. I don't want to let him have that opportunity now.

Thanks in advance for the support and help. And thanks for letting me vent too. I'll let you know how it goes. I'm praying this is his blowing point; when the Evaluator and every one else gets to see that mask slip big time and there will be no taking it back with 5 other people as witnesses.