creepy

The ex-Psych professor once said that his colleagues' kids found him creepy and were scared of him... and animals were scared of him too. Many of his colleagues were middle-aged (but with young children) and they didn't seem to want him around. On the other hand, my Narc grandmother gets along with kids, and she took good care of her cats. She never creeped me out. But I think that's the difference between a garden variety narcissist and a psychopath.

My nephews actually loved the N. They were 3-8 and he was just like them. He was a great playmate and made everything fun for them. I've since had to explain why they won't see him any more. I've tried to approach it as a life lesson about choosing friends wisely and showing them how important it is to be kind to people, how friends care about how they treat each other. I have an agreement with the older one (now 9) that if he sees the N, he can kick him in the shin. I wouldn't ever let the N get that close to him, but he feels good knowing he has the option and is angry with him for what he did to me.

Since the divorce, I've had several of my friends and relatives tell me they thought xnh was creepy, especially concerning the way he acts about his two daughters. To hear xnh talk, you'd think his kids are toddlers. They're 18 and 21 years old now. The oldest P one is pregnant by a gang member, has a drug problem, and will not work to support herself (fired 7 times so far and intends to live on welfare). The youngest one graduates from high school this year, and xnh continually lays on the guilt to her about how she's going to "leave him all alone" when she goes to college (and that IS her plan). It's always all about poor little xnh. Xnh is currently buying a ginormous house, and has the delusion of he and his "children" living happily ever after together (even though the youngest has told him she will not ever live with him or her P sister again). Xnh told me after the D&D that his "children" are his world now. I seriously don't think xnh ever wants them having adult lives that he can't control. He's actively encouraging them to remain dependent on him so that he doesn't have to ever be alone. The whole scenario reminds me of the mother in that old movie Psycho. His kids could very well end up like Norman Bates, and xnh's constant voice in their heads will NEVER go away. I agree with my friends and family. Xnh is creepy. ______________________________________________________ God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.

Yes, my teenaged babysitters--all three of them--finally refused to babysit for me if it was so I could go out with him. They actually refused fourteen bucks an hour because they hated him so much.

Hell I told you he was creepy LOL and that was just from a picture children are so intuitive